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117. Flirting, Chasing, and Choosing: Dating Dynamics Decoded with Mark Rosenfeld

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, Flirties, we’re joined by one of Australia’s most sought-after dating coaches — it’s Mark Rosenfeld.
He’s one of Australia’s top dating and relationship experts, author of the book Make Him Yours: Beating the Odds of Modern Dating, and over the course of his career, he’s coached more than 50,000 women in love, dating, and connection.
We start the episode with Mark’s story of going from shy guy to stripper (yes, you heard that right!), and how stepping into that unexpected world helped him overcome social anxiety and learn the art of flirting.
Then we get into your dating questions as Mark shares how men and women date differently and what each gender wishes the other understood. We’ll hear about why the apps aren’t all that bad and how to make intentional invitations that create real-life dates — without chasing.
And yes, we even talk about that one time Mark went undercover as a woman on dating apps to find out: what are the men doing? How can women actually get more of what they want? And why do women tend to date potential more than men?
Mark brings a unique perspective to the dating game having coached both men and women for over a decade, and let’s just say, he has seen it all.
So, whether you're curious about some psychology and dating dynamics, wondering how to make stronger romantic connections, or just want to hear Mark’s story of personal transformation—this episode is for you!
Let’s do the Flirties, and meet Mark!
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About our guest:  Mark Rosenfeld is one of Australia’s leading dating and relationship coaches and the founder of Make Him Yours. With a background in psychology and a past life as a professional dancer (yes, really!), Mark brings a unique approach to modern dating.
Through his coaching, bestselling book Make Him Yours: Beating the Odds of Modern Dating, and massively popular YouTube channel, he’s helped over 50,000 women build confidence, understand men, and create meaningful relationships. 
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

116. Queer Crossroads: Navigating Gay Dating and Relationships with Nathan Serrato

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re talking all things queer and gay dating with the incredible Nathan Serrato!
Nathan is a trauma-informed coach and host of the Queer Conscious podcast, helping LGBTQ+ individuals and couples build thriving, intentional relationships rooted in self-worth, communication, and emotional intimacy.
Inside the episode, we explore the beautifully complex, sometimes messy, and yet always real world of queer dating. 
We talk about the “Queer Crossroads” and how to navigate that blurry line between friends, flings, dates, sex, and more. We get into meeting in real life vs. online, and how to flirt while staying grounded and authentic.
We’ll also talk about breakups within friend groups and social cirlces, monogamy and open relationships, the concept of a second adolescence, and how to handle dating when it feels more like a search for validation than a path to true connection.
Nathan also shares his insights around body image in our swipe culture, what to do when dating apps feel more exhausting than exciting, and how to build the kind of queer connection that feels safe, sexy, and fun.
Finally, we’ll touch on mental health, the importance of friendships, how to make friends, and how we can love ourselves, perhaps, a little bit more.
So, whether you're new to queer dating, have been around the block and back, or are just curious (hello, straights!), this episode has something for you.
Let’s do the Flirties, and meet Nathan!
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About our guest:  Nathan Serrato, PCC (he/him) is a Queer Love Coach and founder of Queer Conscious. Through coaching, courses, and community, Nathan helps LGBTQ+ individuals and couples build thriving, intentional relationships rooted in self-worth, communication, and emotional intimacy. His somatic approach offers lasting transformation, while his expertise in communication allows him to mediate between partners and guide them toward alignment, understanding, and tangible solutions. Whether you're dating, deepening a partnership, or healing from past relationships, Nathan offers a grounded space for growth and connection.
Learn more at www.queerconscious.com or Instagram: @queerconscious.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
 

115. Dating Inside Out: Your Inner Critic and How to Stop Self Sabotage with Britt Frank

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re welcoming someone whose work has helped thousands of people move from stuck to aligned, it's the brilliant Britt Frank.
A licensed neuropsychotherapist, trauma specialist, speaker, and bestselling author of The Science of Stuck and her brand-new book Align Your Mind, her insights have been featured in NPR, Forbes, The New York Times, and Esquire—and today, she’s here with us, Flirties!
In this episode, we’re getting into the nitty gritty of the mind—what it means to work with our inner world, the origin of our inner critic, and how our nervous systems play a huge role in dating, self-worth, and how we connect with others. 
We’ll talk about Internal Family Systems therapy, the power of parts work, and how the anxious part, avoidant part, or people-pleaser within us might be running the show more than we think, and what we can do about it.
Britt helps us understand why we sometimes get stuck in patterns we know aren’t good for us, she’s got a reframe on self-sabotage and after this, you might start calling it traumatized intuition, we’ll talk about why change is hard (but totally possible), and how our past experiences and traumas might be shaping the way we date today.
Whether you’re navigating indecision, struggling with attachment, or wondering why the same relationship themes keep popping up—this episode is packed with science, soul, and practical strategies to help you get unstuck and move forward with confidence.
Let’s do this, Flirties, and meet Britt Frank.
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About our guest:  Britt Frank, LSCSW, SEP is a licensed neuropsychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Science of Stuck and Align Your Mind. She received her BA from Duke University and her master’s from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning instructor. Britt is a contributing writer for Psychology Today and her work has been featured in the New York Times, Forbes, NPR, and New York Magazine. 
You can connect with Britt on Instagram, LinkedIn, and on her website, www.brittfrank.com.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

114. Dating Deeper: How to Build Intimacy and Connection in a Swipe Culture with Court Vox

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re getting intimate—literally—with certified sex and intimacy coach, Court Vox. Court is the founder of The Body Vox , a somatic sex educator and has been featured in Vogue, Men’s Health, Allure, The New York Post, and more. 
He’s worked with individuals and couples all over the world, helping them build deeper awareness in their bodies, relationships, and erotic selves.
In today’s conversation, we’re exploring what intimacy really looks like—beyond just the physical—including emotional, intellectual, and even spiritual forms of connection. Court walks us through tools to build somatic awareness and helps us understand how to build intimacy in a way that feels safe, grounded, and honest.
From breathwork to intentional touch, vulnerability to building trust, we’ll talk about the practices and barriers that shape our ability to truly connect.
We’ll also tackle some of your burning questions—like: Should you have sex on a first date? Is texting killing the vibe or helping you build connection? Where does attraction really come from? And is attachment really such a bad thing? (Spoiler: it's not. And Court’s going to tell us why.)
If you've ever struggled with mixed signals, perfectionism, hookup fatigue, or fear of intimacy, this one’s going to reframe the way you think about dating and connection.
So, whether you’re craving more closeness, working through fear, or just curious how to build stronger connections in your next relationship or casual connection, this one’s for you!
Let’s do the Flirties, and meet Court!
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About our guest:  Court Vox is a Somatic Sex & Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner, and the Founder of The BodyVox. Through his courses, workshops, retreats, and private immersions, he helps clients overcome limitations and shame, fostering deeper intimacy and connection with their whole selves. At The BodyVox, Court Vox offers 1:1 sessions, workshops, and retreats worldwide, including specialized programs for GBTQ men. His online course and community, Invitations to Intimacy, provides a framework for erotic embodiment alongside a supportive network of like-minded individuals. He is also part of the celebrated program for women, Back to the Body, where he collaborates with an elite team of sex educators to guide transformative experiences for women. 
Certified through governing organizations such as the Somatic Sex Education Association (SSEA), the Association of Sexological Bodyworkers (ACSB), the International Professional Surrogate Association (IPSA), and Urban Tantra, he combines his certifications with ongoing studies in rope bondage, modern hypnotherapy, breathwork, and movement practices. 
As a sex educator, Vox has worked with clients of all sexualities and genders. His work has been featured in The New York Times, Men’s Health, Out Magazine, Vogue, AskMen, Cosmopolitan, Well & Good and more. 
For more information, visit www.thebodyvox.com.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

113. The Evolution of an Icon: Exploring Confidence and Reinvention with Rebecca More

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations is the iconic Rebecca More!
Adult industry legend, one-half of the unforgettable Cock Destroyers, star of Slag Wars, and soon competing in an Ironman, today we’re going beyond fame to talk about reinvention.
In this conversation, Rebecca shares her journey of stepping away from porn and adult work, grieving the loss of her dear friend Sophie, and navigating what life looks like now. 
We talk about confidence, change, and why it’s never too late to choose a new path—or to discover an entirely new version of yourself. 
Rebecca shares how she stays playful, how she keeps evolving, and how we can embrace change no matter what phase of life we’re in.
We’ll also hear some flirting tips, Rebecca’s thoughts on her gay icon status, and what it’s like training for an Ironman!
So, whether you’ve followed Rebecca for years (like me!) or are just getting to know her, you don’t want to miss this conversation as we explore reinvention and why it’s always possible to ask ourselves for more.
Let’s do this Flirties, and meet Rebecca More.
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About our guest:  Rebecca More is a British adult industry legend, performance artist, cultural icon, and one-half of the unforgettable Cock Destroyers, a viral sensation that redefined internet fame and queer adoration. With her signature confidence, camp energy, and unapologetic authenticity, Rebecca has built a devoted global following and continues to inspire audiences far beyond adult entertainment.
She starred in the hit queer reality competition Slag Wars and is now on a powerful journey of personal reinvention—stepping away from porn, training for an Ironman, and embracing new chapters of life with humor, heart, and honesty. A fierce advocate for confidence, self-expression, and embracing change at any stage of life, Rebecca remains a beloved icon and inspiration to many.
You can follow Rebecca's personal Instagram, adult work-focused Instagram, check out the Growth Fridays podcast and lifestyle vlogs on YouTube, and follow her on Twitter. 
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

112. Herpes, Honey! HSV, STIs, and Sexual Health with Tricia Wise

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re getting real, raw, and radically open with the incredible Tricia Wise. 
You may know Tricia as the @safe.slut across social media, Tricia is a master aesthetician, reiki practitioner, sexual health advocate, herpes stigma breaker, and meme queen—and today, she’s joining us to talk about something that, depending on the type, affects over 3 billion people around the world. It’s Herpes!
In this episode, we’re diving into Tricia’s personal journey with HSV (that’s herpes), the work she’s doing to destigmatize sexual health, and how we can create more empowered, shame-free conversations around sex, our bodies, and dating. 
From navigating disclosure and diagnosis, to reclaiming confidence, pleasure, and power, Tricia shares the truth behind the stigma—and why it’s time we start normalizing the conversation around herps and STIs (sexually transmitted infections).
We’ll also talk about the different types of herpes, how you may contract it, treatment options, how to get tested, how and when to disclose status, how to practice safe sex, and why herpes isn’t the end of world.
So, whether you’re navigating a diagnosis, are dating someone who is, or simply want to learn how to be a more informed and safe out there dating, this episode is for you!
Let’s drop the shame, turn up the self-love, and welcome the one and only Tricia Wise to the show.
Let’s do this, Flirties!
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About our guest:  Safe Slut is a writer, sex worker, content creator, and reiki master. Safe Slut was diagnosed with genital herpes in November 2019. After noticing the stigma and shame surrounding being herpes positive, she created her Instagram account @safe.slut to help people take their power back while promoting sex positivity, helping to destigmatize STIs and slut shaming, and promoting safer sex practices. She also is smashing stigma and being a slut on OF as @safeslvt and on Patreon as Safe Slut.
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

111. Exclusivity and Defining the Relationship in Dating with Carleigh Ferrante

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re defining the relationship, ya’ll, with Carleigh Ferrante!
Carleigh is the creator and voice of @mostlydating on Instagram and host of the Mostly Dating podcast, having built a community of over 200,000 with her honest takes on dating and relationships.
Whether you’re feeling things out with someone new, stuck in dating limbo, or ready to move from casual to committed, this episode offers advice on how to approach conversation around exclusivity and defining the relationship with clarity and confidence. 
We’ll talk about what signs to look for that someone is ready for the conversation, how to know if you’re ready, what to consider before having it, and how to handle it if you're not on the same page.
Carleigh shares her take on the timing of the DTR convo, whether exclusivity and defining the relationship are the same thing, and how to navigate situations where one person needs more time. 
We also cover what to expect after this conversation, like how to keep things moving forward or how to walk away if it’s not working.
And finally, we talk a little mindset. Why do we fear scaring someone? And how can we stay grounded when we’re feeling unsure about where we stand with someone? 
So, whether you're about to DTR, go exclusive, all of the above, or none of above, stick around for a candid and honest conversation about dating and relationships.
Alright, let’s do this, Flirties, and meet Carleigh!
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About our guest:  Carleigh Ferrante is a New York–based writer and creator behind the hit dating podcast Mostly Dating, where she delivers approachable, insightful advice for every stage of modern relationships. Her work blends humor, heart, and accessible guidance, with episodes running weekly and featuring practical tips, listener questions, and conversations that help build healthier, happier, and lasting connections.
A graduate of Hunter College with a degree in Creative Writing and Psychology, Carleigh has contributed to major outlets including MindBodyGreen, Well+Good, PureWow, Forbes, Bustle, The Everygirl, The Zoe Report, and Yahoo Life. She also works directly with brands, crafting copy for email, web, social media, and more.
You can connect with Carleigh on Instagram (@mostlydating), the Mostly Dating Podcast, and on her website.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

110. Summer Solstice Dating Horoscope with Fernie!

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, Fernie is back on the show for our summer solstice dating horoscope!
With a brand new season comes new energy for dating, romance, flirting, and cosmic possibility.
Joining us today is Flirtations’ in-house astrologer, fortune teller, and magic mystic, Fernie, here to read the stars and pull back the planetary curtain on what this season has in store for our love lives.
What does the Queen of Swords want us to know? What is Jupiter up to and what opportunities might some celestial happenings present?
Mars has also got something to say and we’re kicking off cancer season!
Lot’s to get to, including the two big themes the stars and planets have for us, and how we can fill our own cups a little bit more.
You don’t need to be an astrology expert—just bring an open heart and an open mind, and we’ll take care of the rest.
So get ready to flirt with fortune, boldness, beauty, and maybe a little bit of magic.
Let’s do this, Flirties, and meet Fernie.
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About our guest:  Fernie Salinas (he/they) is a queer Latinx fortune telling witch from the Rio Grande Valley in Texas.  They are the owner and founder of Golden Mirror Fortunes, and they hope to be Your Favorite Fortune Teller! They grew up always knowing that magic was around us, as their great-grandfather and his son, their grand-uncle, were both curanderos (folk healers) in Rio Grande City, and it’s been such a delight to have Golden Mirror Fortunes carry on the legacy of healing and mysticism they instilled in him.
He’s also an educator — he went to Rice University, studied English and Art History, got their teacher’s certification, joined TFA, and have been a teacher and principal at various schools in the RGV.  He is currently an education consultant as well as running Golden Mirror Fortunes, their small fortune telling business.  He uses tarot and magic to help people heal and find their paths, all in service of improving their fortunes.  His deepest desire is to provide you with the light that you need to make your life a little more magical and glittery. Follow them on Instagram and let them be your favorite fortune teller!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

109. Stop Forcing, Start Flowing: The Art of Surrender with Dr. Shanté Holley

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Dr. Shanté Holley to the show!
Dr. Shanté is a certified life coach, writer, professor, and host of the podcast The Whole In Your Heart podcast on YouTube. Specializing in guiding individuals through the complexities of healing, wellness, and personal development, today we have a conversation for you about the art of surrender.
We explore how to trust the timing of your life, the difference between surrender and submission, and how to accept what you cannot change while still believing deeply in yourself and what is possible.
We’ll go into how to process anger and hurt when you’ve been wronged, how to stop living in the past, and how the very act of trying to control outcomes is often where we lose our power. 
Dr. Shanté offers insights into why force is the opposite of surrender, how to recognize the subtle ways we abandon ourselves, and why surrender is not weakness, but strength.
If you’ve been holding on too tightly to old beliefs, are having a hard time letting go, feeling stuck, or if your strength has started to look more like struggle, this episode is for you!
Let’s do the Flirties, and meet Dr. Shanté!
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About our guest:  Dr. Shanté Holley is a certified, trauma-informed mental health coach with over 20 years of experience as a college professor. She is a respected voice in the mental wellness community, with a passionate following of more than 270K on social media, a ranked publication on Substack, and viral content that has reached millions. 
Known for her accessible, and impactful approach to mental health, she has been featured on both local and national news outlets, using her platform to share practical insights and advocate for mental wellness.
A sought-after speaker, Dr. Shanté delivers high-value content on a variety of topics related to emotional resilience, trauma recovery, and self-care, with engagements across the country. Her expertise has led to partnerships with major organizations such as the Immigrant Justice Corps, American Red Cross, SAMHSA, and the Ad Council, where she collaborates on campaigns aimed at promoting mental health awareness and community support.
In addition to her work in mental health coaching, Dr. Shanté is a prolific podcaster with three successful shows that collectively boast hundreds of thousands of downloads. Her podcasts serve as valuable resources for individuals seeking guidance on personal growth, mindset, healing, and navigating life’s challenges.
Dr. Shanté also serves on the Board for Belonging Through Art, an organization dedicated to reducing loneliness and fostering positive social connections through art. Her commitment to improving mental wellness extends to her academic work, where she was a Fulbright Scholarship Finalist for her research on Blaxit: The Interconnectedness of Racial Trauma, Healing, and Black Immigration to Portugal, a groundbreaking project that explored the intersections of cultural identity, trauma, and healing.
With her extensive background in mental health, education, and media Dr. Shanté Holley is a trailblazer in the field, committed to helping individuals heal, grow, and thrive.
You can connect with Dr. Shanté on Substack, listen to the "Whole in Your Heart" podcast on YouTube, learn more on her website, and @drshantesays on Instagram.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

108. Columnist Confessions: A Conversation with Jana Hocking

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re going to have a cheeky good time with the fabulous Jana Hocking!
You might know Jana from her spicy columns in the Daily Mail, her time behind the scenes casting and producing The Bachelor, or her wildly popular 'saucy secrets' series on Instagram, where no confession is too hot to handle.
In this episode, we talk about everything from orgasm camp to the realities of modern dating—including the rise of red pill culture, the shift to wanting more in real life meet cute moments, and how we can start to decenter dating in our lives without settling for singleness.
Jana shares some of her favorite dating stories, we’re gonna talk some kinks and sex, and yes, even a flirting tip or two.
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About our guest:  Jana Hocking is a journalist, dating columnist, and self-proclaimed “collector of stories” the juicier, the better. She pens the popular Saucy Secrets advice column for Daily Mail, writes internationally about modern romance, and has become a go-to voice on sex, dating, and relationships. Known for her cheeky wit and raw honesty, she’s not afraid to ask the questions everyone’s thinking - especially when it comes to love and lust in the 21st century.
Follow her adventures, columns, and overshares on Instagram @jana_hocking and catch more of her writing at dailymail.co.uk.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.