Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

21. Dating N.A.T.O. (Not Attached to Outcome) with Erika Ettin

On this episode of Flirtations, we're dating N.A.T.O.!
Standing for "Not Attached To Outcome," I'm excited to have a conversation all about this dating strategy with dating coach extraoridinaire Erika Ettin (@alittlenudge)!
What does dating N.A.T.O. mean, exactly?
Well, if you've ever attached quickly to someone you just started dating, or put pressure on yourself, or seen dating in black and white terms as a success of failure, or felt like you just have all these expectations that have made dating tricky ... I think you'll like this strategy!
Erika explains what dating N.A.T.O. is all about and how it will help you date with more ease, clarity, and confidence!
We'll also talk about detachment and expectations, communication in dating (including asking for clarity when there's uncertainty), and heartbreak. Erika has a several beautiful messages for the tough times when your heart may be feeling heavy and wonder if it's "all worth it."
I hope you love this episode as much as I loved recording it!
About our guest:  Erika Ettin is the Founder of A Little Nudge, a consulting company that helps people navigate the world of online dating, from first click to first date. She is also the author of the book Love at First Site and the co-host of the dating podcast So, We Met Online…
Erika studied economics at Cornell University and received her MBA from Georgetown. She started A Little Nudge in 2011 (after a seven-year career as an economist). She is responsible for many relationships, marriages, and the confidence some people simply need to “get out there.”
A Little Nudge has been featured in media around the country, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, NPR, CBS, and Ask Men, and she currently writes a weekly syndicated dating column. You can connect with Erika on Instagram, @alittlenude.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
Happy flirting!

20. Flirting and Dating at Work with Kelsea Warren

We're flirting at work today, y'all!
I get A LOT of questions about workplace crushes and dating at work. Today, they all get answered!
To have this conversation with us is Kelsea Warren, a coach, speaker and expert on career burnout and workplace values, and together, we're gonna take on topics like:
How do I flirt at work? What if I have a crush on my boss? What if I'm dating my coworker? What are some secret ways to flirt at work? What if I flirt with my work crush and they don't flirt back? Is flirting and dating at work bad? 
We'll also get into how you can talk about what you do/your career on a date and share date ideas for when you don't have a lot of money or may be in between jobs.
Finally, you'll see woven into the conversation Kelsea's work on workplace values and burnout. Cuz let's be real. How you make money has a BIG impact on your life, and thus your relationships, whether you're dating or not. I felt this was an important part of the conversation and I'm so glad Kelsea was on the show!
But that's not all for this episode. We'll also be talking with Martha, an HR lawyer and I'll ask questions like, "Is HR reading my emails?" "Can I flirt in the Teams chat? Or Zoom chat?" "How much skin can I show if I want to flirt with my crush and get away with it?" "Could I get in trouble for flirting? Or dating my coworker?"
Thanks for checking out this episode, Flirty! Please don't forget to leave a rating and hit subscribe so you don't miss an episode!
Come flirt with me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
To work together 1:1 and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guest:  Hi there! I'm Kelsea. A coach, consultant, and speaker who specializes in burnout prevention. I have a master's degree in social work and am approaching candidacy for a Ph.D. in Industrial and Organizational Psychology. I am an expert in employee burnout and workplace values and have used that as the lens to help thousands of high achievers create and sustain aligned careers.
Before that, I spent 8+ years in mental health and working as a clinical therapist. I LOVE digital marketing, specifically short-form video, and have an organic audience of 150k+ across social platforms, which has landed me collaborations and keynotes with brands like Urban Decay, The National Post, Girlboss, ATD, Teacher Vision, WSCPA, and University Of Arizona.
I'm also an Air Force spouse of 11 years, and mom to a firey five-year-old daughter. 
A gift from Kelsea! Make sure to grab your FREE resources mentioned in the episode!  Workplace Values Assessment & Wellbeing Audit

19. Autism and Dating with Ashra Piterman

It's the "Autism and Dating" episode of Flirtations!
On the show, we'll meet Ashra Piterman, an autism advocate, podcast host, and creative who was diagnosed with autism at age 24. We'll learn more about Ashra and her journey toward diagnosis, and talk about dating, of course!
Ashra shares her experiences dating and making connections before and after being diagnosed, including how she started dating her boyfriend, and ways her autism has influenced her dating life.
We'll talk about flirting and dating strategies, ways to manage anxiety on a date, first date ideas, and communication tips - all geared for the autistic person!
Overall, this episode offers a framework for developing secure, healthy attachment in relationships, with a special focus on the neurodiverse flirties who are autistic, or are wondering if they may be.
Finally, Ashra shares resources to explore if you are considering a diagnosis or would like to seek further information.
Whether you are autistic or not, I hope you enjoy this episode of Flirtations that promises to offer something for everyone!
After the episode, please consider leaving a star rating or review, and then let's connect on socials if we haven't already!
You can flirt with me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
To work together 1:1 and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guest (in her words):  My name is Ashra and I am a late-diagnosed autistic woman with a passion for spreading the message "autistic adults exist too". I have a master's degree in the field of Psychology, I am a content creator, a podcaster, and I run support groups for adults in the autistic community. You can find me on Instagram @ashralouisa, on Spotify and Apple Podcasts @autisticafterhours, and you can checkout my website www.autisticthrifter.org to learn more about my support groups.

18: Sex and Early Dating with Claire Perelman and the Honeydew Me Podcast

Oooooo it's the sex and dating episode y'all! And to have this conversation with us is not one, but three special guests!
On the show today, we'll be talking with sex therapist and educator Claire Perelman and the co-hosts of the Honeydew Me podcast, Emma Norman and Cass Anderson, as we answer allllll of your sex and dating questions!
Questions like:  What is sex, anyway? Can I have sex on a first date? Should I? How do I talk about boundaries and consent? How do I ask for what I want? What if the sex is awkward? I have expectations, what do I do with those? What if I get rejected? How can I explore kinks with someone new? What if I get anxious or nervous? What if the sex isn't good? How can I have more FUN?!
Basically, If you're having the sex or will be having the sex, this episode is for you!
For more sex and dating Q&A, please check out the Instagram LIVE I did with Claire earlier this year:  IG LIVE, Sex and Dating.
Thank you for listening, flirty! If you enjoyed this episode, please rate the show and let me know what you thought!
You can connect with me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
To work together 1:1 and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guests: 
Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish Sex Therapist and Educator living and working in the Bay Area. Her work with clients, workshops, podcasts, and social media focuses on making sex education more accessible and normalizing sexual pleasure and play in people’s lives. Like many therapists, she channeled her greatest source of pleasure and heartbreak into her area of focus, leading her to specialize in therapy for sex and intimacy with couples, individuals, and polycules. You can find her at @sexclarified (on all platforms) and www.sexclarified.com
Emma and Cass are the hosts of Honeydew Me, a podcast dedicated to helping all humans have great sex, feel good in their bodies, and find the confidence to embrace their most authentic selves. Emma & Cass strive to have honest, shameless, and relatable conversations that help you in and outside the bedroom. We can't wait to hang! Follow the Honeydew Podcast on Instagram and stream episodes wherever you listen to podcasts!

Welcome to Flirtations!

It's the official trailer for the Flirtations Flirtcast! Come hang out with me and my mustache for approximately 1:53 as I share what you can expect from the show!
New episodes drop every Monday and Friday with an array of guests and topics, all with this one flirt mission in mind:  to bring more connection into our lives!
In each episode, this will be a central theme that comes up again and again as we explore the connections we make flirting and dating, the connection we have with ourselves, and tap into the flirt energy of connection for greater healing and transformation!
You can connect with me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
To work together 1:1 and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras

17. Texting and Digital Communication in Early Dating with Sabrina Zohar

Ooooo it's the texting and digital communication episode! And we'll be having this conversation with legendary dating coach Sabrina Zohar! 😮
We start off the episode with one of Sabrina's HOTTEST takes about texting and then answer your most burning questions!
How much should you be texting? Why do you get anxious when you're waiting for them to text back? What can you do about this? How can you tell if someone is lovebombing you over text? What if you're always initiating? What if someone is a "boring" texter? What are some fun ways to text?
We'll also be talking about conversation on dating apps - and how quickly you should move off of them and into text.
Finally, we wrap up the interview talking about social media ... like, should you follow each other early in dating? What does it mean if they watch your stories, but don't text you back? If you're connected on socials, should you keep following an ex or someone you went on a few dates with? Or no dates?
But that's not all for this episode!
In segment two, it's another round of Trader Joe's story time! This time, we welcome Terri Allen, a fellow crew member at Trader Joe's! Terri had a REAL life meet cute moment at the grocery store with a gentlemen, and they are now dating! Terri will tell us allll about that, then I asked about the role of texting and how they navigated communication and differences in texting styles.
Thank you for listening to this episode, Flirty! If you enjoyed it, please consider leaving a rating and subscribe so you don't miss a thing!
The conversation on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
For all Flirt Coach offers and to schedule your 1:1 call:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guest:  Sabrina Zohar is a dynamic entrepreneur and dating coach renowned for her transformative podcast, The Sabrina Zohar Show. With a clear, no-nonsense approach to relationship advice, Sabrina's podcast has resonated globally, ranking in the top 0.05% of all podcasts. Each episode features practical tips backed by board-certified and licensed psychologists, aimed at helping listeners improve their dating lives by fostering self-worth and personal growth.
You can connect with Sabrina and learn more about The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube, and online.

16. The Flirting Episode! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

It's the Flirting Episode of Flirtations!
Flirting week continues with the big debut of the first ever solo episode of Flirtations as I bring you a conversation all about my favorite thing in the world ... the FLIRT!
This episode kicks off with more of my story and the evolution of the Flirt Coach, then we get into three big flirting topics that are the foundation of my flirt philosophy:  flirt styles, my signature F.L.I.R.T. framework, and the 5 D's of the flirt.
We'll get into what flirting truly is and how to do it. I'll talk about how to tell if someone is flirting with you, ways to have more flirt confidence, and offer plenty of strategies so you can flirt like you've maybe never flirted before. 
Finally, we wrap with answers to your burning questions about the flirt. How do I flirt if I'm shy? What if I get too nervous to flirt? What if I get rejected or they don't flirt back? Is the flirt created equal? If a guy is just giving me compliments, is he flirting? How do I flirt long distance? What about flirting in a long term relationship?
Mentioned in the episode, please check out the FREE Flirt Styles quiz and download the companion Flirt Styles and Confidence guide to interpret your results!
For my effortless flirting and conversation guide, Textual Chemistry, follow this link and use code "Flirt25" for 25% off!
Then, the conversation continues on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
For all Flirt Coach offers and to book a 1:1 call:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
Thank you so much for listening, Flirty! 💗
 

15. Improv Your Flirt! The Intersection of Improv Comedy and Flirting with Jamie Clark

It's "Flirting Week" on Flirtations, Flirty!
And the first of two flirting themed episodes is a conversation all about flirting through the lens of improv comedy with multidisciplinary teacher and improv comic Jamie Clark!
Lemme ask you ... does flirting make you nervous? Do you sometimes overthink the flirt? Or be critical of yourself that you're not good at it? Maybe weird or awkward when you flirt? Do you have a fear that it can go wrong? What about a fear of being seen, of putting yourself out there? Do you have a hard time staying in the present moment and not feeling anxious?
If you answered "yes" to even one of these questions, please listen to this episode!
We break down the flirt in a unique way by looking at flirting though the framework of improvisational comedy and offer a plethora of practical advice and mindset shifts to see the flirt in a whole new way, build your flirt confidence, and unleash your inner flirt, flirty!
Then, at the end of the episode, we play the "ABC" game, a classic improv comedy skit.
This all plays out now on this episode of Flirtations!
Please don't forget to rate the show and share it with a friend!
After each episode, we keep the flirt alive on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
To work together and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guest:  Jamie Clark is an artist, performer, somatic coach, and improv teacher who's passionate about living a life that is bold and authentically expressed. If you told the 12 year old version of her that one day she'd be performing hour long romantic comedies that are completely made up on the spot based off of a suggestion from the audience, she would look at you like you had three heads. She was the shyest little bunny growing up and historically struggled to speak up for herself, let alone speak in front of other people.
If her life was a movie you were watching and she was the main character- let's just say you'd probably be on your phone scrolling or gettin' busy with your partner on the couch instead of actually watching. Through a mix of very intentional inner child work, somatic practices, and learning the art of improv comedy, Jamie now travels the world guiding students virtually and in person in the art of public speaking, authentic expression, and bringing more play to your everyday life. Often the things we are most afraid of are the very direction we're meant to go for our greatest and most exciting expression. It takes an open heart and a willingness to do the scary thing to try out a new character in the movie of your life - and it's so worth it. 
She's grateful for the opportunity to hear your story, witness your humanity, and catalyze your transformation. While she is not currently very active on social media, you can connect with her on LinkedIn or Instagram.
If you listened to this episode and want to share your experience, she'd love to hear from you! You can drop her a note at intentionalimprovbiz@gmail.com 
Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators! Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud! 

14. Authenticity, Vulnerability, and Expressing Yourself in Dating (+ fun dates ideas) with Scott Spraags

I know you've heard this piece of dating (and life!) advice before. I've even said it!
Be your authentic self. Just be you. And don't forget to be vulnerable! And have fun, too! 
Ummmm, ok, thanks?! But what does this mean? What if you aren't sure who you are? How do you be vulnerable? What does that look like? How do you have fun dating?
In this episode of Flirtations, I sat down with Scott Spraags and together, we've got a conversation on all things authenticity, vulnerability, expressing yourself, and getting creative with your dates!
Authenticity and vulnerability will be foundational to your life, in dating, relationships, and beyond, and I'm so excited to bring you this episode.
Please don't forget to rate the show if you're enjoying it!
Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
To work together and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guest:  Scott/Scottie is a working professional in entertainment and creative currently based in Los Angeles. He has worked with major artists such as Post Malone, Martin Short, and Broadway Choreographers, such as Connor Gallagher, and Patti Wilcox to name a few. You can find him performing, acting, singing, and spreading love and joy all over the world .
Scott has gotten the opportunity to walk the lifestyles of so many different cultures & people from getting to travel, perform and live across the globe his entire life. The biggest lesson he has take away from this is learning to never take what you have for granted but to also never settle for less than you are.
 
He is thrilled to be a guest on Flirtations! And seriously SO proud to be a Flrity just like you. 
 
You can catch him on tour this winter all across the US and Canada as a dancer on the Jinkx and Dela Holiday Show Tour! Keep up with Scott on Instagram.

13. Dating and Sex After Divorce with Nicole Richmond and Michelle Herzog

One of Flirtations most highly requested topics!
We'll be getting into dating and sex after divorce with not one, but TWO special guests!
On this episode, we have intuitive dating coach, astrologer, and author Nicole Richmond to guide us through dating after divorce.
Then, we'll be talking with licensed relationship and sex therapist Michelle Herzog about sex after divorce!
Y'all came through with questions and we'll be answering them ALL today!
When should I date again? Should I date someone that is recently divorced? Or still going through the process? What if I have kids? I've been with one partner for a long time and I'm nervous (but ready?) to have sex again? What if I was in a sexless marriage, how do I navigate that part of dating? 
If you're asking yourself any of these questions, we've got the answers in this episode!
Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
To work together and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guests: 
Nicole Richmond is an Intuitive Dating Coach, Astrologer, and author of Making A Stylish Exit: Random Stories of Dating After Divorce, teaching divorced women to swipe with intention, style, and confidence. For more information, please visit Nicole's website, connect with her on Instagram, and for retreat information, follow this link!
Michelle Herzog, LMFT, CST, is a licensed relationship and sex therapist and nationally recognized dating coach on a mission to make modern dating easier for singles who are tired of wasting their time dating all the wrong people. After years of working as a licensed therapist, she's leveraged her psychology skills to build a coaching system specifically tailored to help singles date with confidence, both online and IRL. Her dating and relationship expertise has been featured by publications including TIME Magazine, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Women's Health, Vice, and others. Connect with Michelle on her website and Instagram!
Download the FREE resource mentioned in the episode here!
Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators! Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud!