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140. Strutting into Main Character Energy and Decentering Men with Star Monroe (fall flashback!)

On the show today is none other than Star Monroe! We've got an incredible conversation about how to embrace - strut! - into main character energy (and what the truly means), as well as how to decenter men and center your fine self! 
A few topics discussed include internal vs. external validation, seeing the world through the male gaze, what happens to the ego during times of self doubt, the importance of embodying healing (and how to do it), the truth about authenticity, and more.
After the main interview, the mics stayed hot once more and the Flirt Coach ... got coached! You don't wanna miss this moment.
Then for the second segment of this episode, I've got a meditation for you on cultivating inner confidence that pairs perfectly with Star's interview. You can listen to it driving, but at least pull over to do the practice!  😂
*originally aired June 16, 2024*
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About our guest: Star Monroe, a licensed psychotherapist and master life coach, is dedicated to supporting ambitious, successful women over 50 who refuse to settle. She champions women to demand more from themselves before seeking it from the world. Her mission is clear: inspire women to take exceptional care of their mind, body, soul, and dreams, and decenter men to lead a life of excellence. Become fiercely assertive and unapologetically confident with Star Monroe’s guidance, embracing the ethos of The High Standards Woman to Live A Life of Excellence.
The Magnetic Woman:  7 Days to Become Irresistible to Your Desires Course
Connect with Star on Instagram and TikTok
https://www.msstarmonroe.com/
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Flirtini #20: Getting Over a Situationship

It’s a BRAND NEW Flirtini!
This one is all about how to get over a situationship!
Here’s what you can expect:
➡️ What is a situationship? (and what else we can call it!)
➡️ Why does it often hurt when they end?
➡️ What happens in the brain and body?
➡️ What are some ways to “get over” aka move on from a situationship?
➡️ Is a situationship ever the right thing to do?
➡️  What are some characteristics of this type of connection?
➡️  How can I get closure and look forward?
➡️  What if they want to stay in my life?
 
💗 Happy Flirting! 💗
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Watch on YouTube!
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

139. Rewiring the "What Ifs": Anxiety, Overthinking, and Perfectionism in Dating with Dr. Jennifer Wolkin

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re talking anxiety, overthinking, and perfectionism in dating!
You know that feeling when you replay every text, second-guess what you said on a date, or try so hard to show up as your “best self” that you forget to just be yourself? 
Joining us for this conversation is Dr. Jennifer Wolkin. Dr. Jen is a neuropsychologist, writer, and ADHD advocate, here to help us make peace with our brains, understand ourselves a little bit more, and why we do think the things we do!
Inside the episode, we’ll hear about what happens in the brain when we’re overthinking, how perfectionism can sabotage connection, and where dating anxiety really comes from. 
Dr. Jen shares simple practices for grounding yourself before a date, how we can reframe perfectionism and worry, and building self-compassion along the way.
This one is all about the neuroscience behind our emotions in dating and how we can not all anxiety and overthinking to run the show.
Alright Flirties, let’s take a breath, let go of the “what-ifs,” and meet Dr. Jen!
Watch on YouTube!
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About our guest:  Dr. Jen, PhD, MFA, is a licensed psychologist, and Harvard-trained neuropsychologist.  She founded a private practice with an appreciation that our mind, body, and brain are intimately intertwined and impacted by one another.   She is also a writer, speaker, mindfulness practitioner, and mental health advocate.  
Her first book, Quick Calm: Easy meditations to short-circuit stress using mindfulness and neuroscience, was published in 2021.  Her next book about finding your ADHD Blueprint is forthcoming from Tarcher in 2026. She has her MFA in poetry, and has published in multiple literary journals, mostly writing what she likes to name "neuro-poetry." 
Dr. Jen is in Menopause, and unabashedly neurodiverse. 
You can connect with Dr. Jen on Instagram (ADHD Page/Personal Page)
Buy the book, Quick Calm:  Easy Meditations
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
 

138. Fawning: The Hidden Trauma Response with Dr. Ingrid Clayton

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Dr. Ingrid Clayton to the show! Dr. Clayton is a clinical psychologist, speaker, and author of the brand-new book Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves and How to Find Our Way Back.
If you’ve ever found yourself people-pleasing, over-accommodating, or twisting into knots to keep the peace in dating and relationships, this episode is for you. 
Fawning is known as the ‘fourth trauma response’—alongside fight, flight, and freeze—and it’s one that often flies under the radar. It can look like kindness or care, but at its core, it’s a survival strategy that leads to self-abandonment.
In this conversation, we’ll unpack what fawning really is, how it shows up in dating and relationships, the cost of constantly prioritizing others and—most importantly—how to begin the healing journey so you can show up in dating without losing yourself.
Along the way, we’ll also get into how fawning is different from people pleasing and masking, what happens in the body during a trauma, and strategies for reclaiming the self.
This one is about understanding the roots of the most overlooked trauma response and carving a path forward for healing. 
Alright Flirties, let’s do this, and meet Dr. Ingrid Clayton!
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About our guest:  Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a clinical psychologist with a Master’s in transpersonal psychology and a PhD in clinical psychology. She is an author whose groundbreaking work explorescomplex trauma and the fawn response. With over two decades of clinical experience, Ingridblends personal narrative, psychological research, and cultural insight to offer a fresh, de-shaming perspective on healing.
Her work integrates trauma-informed modalities like Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, and other nervous system–oriented practices that support real, embodied transformation. She believes healing happens in relationship, and the heart of her practice has always been real connection and collaboration.
Ingrid’s work has been featured in Psychology Today, Oprah Daily, Women’s Health and more.Her memoir, Believing Me: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse and Complex Trauma, has resonatedwith thousands of readers for its honesty, humor, and heart. 
Fawning:  Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves -- and How to Find Our Way Back
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Flirtini #19: How to Get a Date!

It's a BRAND NEW Flirtini!
In the last one we talked about multi-dating and in this one, it's how to get a date!
Here's what you can expect:
➡️  Where to meet people:  online vs. in person
➡️  The dating app trick you need so your profile stands out
FREE Dating App Survival Guide
➡️  Meeting people in person (what do looks have to do with it?)
➡️  How to detach from expectations (and thus seeing yourself how you want to be perceived)
➡️  How to handle potential rejection
➡️  How to actually meet people (eh hem, flirt with your life!)
➡️  Where to meet people
➡️  Conversation tips/strategies
➡️  Breaking down two common pieces of dating advice:  "It happens when you least expect it," and "everything happens for a reason"
➡️  Your Flirtini homework and what comes next
 
💗 Happy Flirting! 💗
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Watch on YouTube!
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
 

137. A Sexpert's Guide to Trust, Expectations, and Accountability in Dating with Dr. Juliana Hauser

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re looking at the intersection of sexuality, trust, expectations, and accountability in dating!
Joining us is Dr. Juliana Hauser, a licensed couples and family therapist, known as the “sexpert’s sexpert” for her decades of work in sex and relationships, and author of the upcoming book "A New Position on Sex."
In the episode, we’ll explore how to distinguish between expectations and needs in dating, how to build trust through agency and accountability, and how understanding your own desires can transform the way you show up in relationships. 
We’ll talk about the idea of accountability in dating and how we hold ourselves accountable first, - a big part of self -trust! — and trying to fix others or teach them how to be the partners we want them to be.
This one’s all about building trust, the role of accountability, managing expectations, and allowing our sexuality to take up as much space as we want.
Alirght Flirties, let’s do this, and meet Dr. Julianna!
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About our guest:  With over two decades of experience supporting people to discover their own sexual agency, Dr. Juliana Hauser leads conversations about taboo topics like sex and sexuality, menopause, intimacy, relationships, and more, with approachability and expertise.
She has a PhD in Counseling Education; has a thriving virtual private practice; is a beloved media personality on screen, on stage, and in print; and is a TEDx speaker.
Dr. J is also the creator of the holistic sexuality courses including Revealed, and is the author of newly-released A New Position on Sex: A Guide to Greater Sexual Confidence, Pleasure, and Authenticity—find it on all major online retailers.
Learn more about "The List" Excercise
"A New Position on Sex" Get the book!
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

136. Autumnal Equinox Dating Horoscope with Fernie!

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, Fernie is back on the show as we celebrate the change of seasons with something a little magical — it’s the autumnal equinox dating horoscope!
Fernie, an astrologer, mystic, and guide to all things cosmic and flirty, is here to help us navigate this shift and together, we’ll explore what dating and flirting vibes you can anticipate this fall.
The equinox is all about balance — and it’s the perfect time to think about how we can bring that same harmony into our dating lives. We’ll talk about letting go of old patterns, why overthinking is sabotaging the vibe, and even get a flirty little mantra to carry us through this season.
The knight of swords also makes a visit, we’ll hear what virgo and libra have to say about things, why October 13th needs to be on your calendar, and finally Venus and Mars enter the chat!
So, how can we play and flirt with all of these energies this coming season?
Stay tuned (and maybe grab a pumpkin spice latte!) and let’s see what the cosmos have in store for love this fall.
You can also watch the full episode on YouTube!
Let’s get into it, Flirties, and meet Fernie!
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About our guest:  Fernie Salinas (he/they) is a queer Latinx fortune telling witch from the Rio Grande Valley in Texas.  They are the owner and founder of Golden Mirror Fortunes, and they hope to be Your Favorite Fortune Teller! They grew up always knowing that magic was around us, as their great-grandfather and his son, their grand-uncle, were both curanderos (folk healers) in Rio Grande City, and it’s been such a delight to have Golden Mirror Fortunes carry on the legacy of healing and mysticism they instilled in him.
He’s also an educator — he went to Rice University, studied English and Art History, got their teacher’s certification, joined TFA, and have been a teacher and principal at various schools in the RGV.  He is currently an education consultant as well as running Golden Mirror Fortunes, their small fortune telling business.  He uses tarot and magic to help people heal and find their paths, all in service of improving their fortunes.  His deepest desire is to provide you with the light that you need to make your life a little more magical and glittery. Follow them on Instagram and let them be your favorite fortune teller!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Flirtini #18: Is Multi-Dating Right for You?

It’s a BRAND NEW Flirtini!
This one is all multi-dating! Here’s what you can expect:
 
➡️ What is multi-dating and how to do it.
➡️ How multi-dating is different from roster dating.
➡️ The two multi-dating traps (and how to avoid them).
➡️ Examples of timelines in multi-dating (how many people do you date and for how long?).
➡️ How to deal with comparing people you date (and getting stuck in overthinking!)
➡️  Pros/cons to multi-dating (and how to know if it’s right for you).
➡️  Whether or not I multi-date (and why!).
 
💗 Happy Flirting! 💗
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Watch on YouTube!
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

135. How to Detach in Dating with Sabrina Bendory

Flirties, today we’re diving into a concept that can truly transform the way you date: detachment.
Not the kind where you shut down or stop caring, but the kind where you finally stop tying your worth to someone else or external circumstances.
Joining us for this conversation is Sabrina Bendory, a dating and relationship expert, host of the You Will Be OK podcast, and author of the powerful new book Detached: How to Let Go, Heal, and Become Irresistible.
Inside the episode, we’ll explore what detachment really means and how to practice it in dating and relationships.
We’ll get into the differences between self confidence, self worth, and self esteem, how to detach from the timing of things, ways to practice acceptance, the reasons so many of us over-attach in dating, and ultimately how we can become irresistible by being ourselves.
So, if you’ve ever found yourself spiraling over “What did that text mean?” or felt like your entire worth depends on whether someone chooses you, this episode is for you. 
Let’s do this Flirties, and meet Sabrina!
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About our guest:  Sabrina Bendory is a writer, relationship expert, and coach who specializes in helping people build unshakable self-worth, break unhealthy patterns, and attract the love they deserve. Her work blends psychological insight with real-world tools, empowering readers to heal from past wounds and create healthy, fulfilling relationships.
Sabrina is the author of several best-selling books and guides on dating, detachment, and emotional resilience. Her work has been featured in top publications, including Vogue, Cosmopolitan, Women's Health, Newsweek, NY Post, and more. 
Through her writing, courses, and private coaching, Sabrina has helped thousands of people stop chasing love and start attracting it by becoming their most grounded, magnetic selves.
You can follow Sabrina Bendory on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube @sabrinabendory.
Learn more and get your copy of Detached!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

134. Polyamory and Non-Monogamy in Dating with Leanne Yau

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re diving into the world of polyamory with Leanne Yau! 
Leanne is an award-winning polyamory educator and through her platform PolyPhilia, she creates educational and entertaining content to help people navigate non-monogamous relationships with clarity, confidence, and compassion.
Inside the episode, we’ll get into what polyamory is (and isn’t), the biggest myths that surround it, what monogamous daters could learn from polyamorists, and how to take the first steps if you’re poly-curious. 
We’ll explore frameworks like the relationship escalator and relationship anarchy, the different types of polyamory, and cover dating essentials like communication, boundaries, and even jealousy!
But that’s not all, we answer some of your top questions like when do I tell someone I’m polyamorous, what if I don’t have much experience, but am dating someone who does, and how do I know if polyamory is right for me?
Whether you’re new to polyamory or just curious, this conversation will give you insights and tools to approach dating and relationships with more ease.
Alright Flirties, let’s do this, and meet Leanne!
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About our guest:  Leanne Yau is a British award-winning polyamory educator, writer, speaker, certified sex and relationships educator, and trainee psychosexual therapist whose work is all about non-monogamy and sex positivity. She creates educational and entertaining multimedia content about creating healthy and sustainable non-monogamous relationships, drawing from her lived experiences as a polyamorous, bisexual, neurodivergent, kinky, and Asian agender femme who has been openly non-monogamous since 2016.
Since 2020, Leanne has connected with millions across the globe through her social media posts, online and in-person talks, workshops, panels, and lectures, in the media, and her private non-monogamous peer support sessions. She also writes ‘A Polyamorous Perspective’, a polyamory advice column at Gay Times.
Leanne was named in ‘15 LGBTQ+ Educators Who Took Instagram Infotainment To The Next Level’ (Buzzfeed, 2021), '10 Polyamory Experts to Follow on TikTok' (Cosmopolitan, 2022), and ‘60 Top Influencers Who Are Actually Worth the Follow’ (Men’s Health, 2023). She holds a Special Recognition and Appreciation Award for her contributions to the non-monogamous community (The Panel ENM, 2021), and was nominated for Sex and Relationships Creator of the Year (BCreator, 2024).
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.