Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach
Hey, flirty! With new episodes dropping every week, Flirtations is your go-to resource for getting out of your head and into the flirt! I’m so excited to bring you classic conversations on timeless dating questions around pacing, communication, and confidence ... with a unique Flirt Coach perspective! You can expect thought provoking, inclusive conversations with an array of guests and much, much more. Let’s flirt! You can connect with me on Flirtstagram: https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/ And Flirttok: https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras To work together 1:1 and for all Flirt Coach offers: https://stan.store/benjamincamras
Episodes

Thursday May 01, 2025
96. Reclaiming Yourself: Healing from Abusive Relationships with Ashley Maland
Thursday May 01, 2025
Thursday May 01, 2025
Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Ashley Maland, Host of the "This Is Where We Heal" Podcast, to have a conversation with us about the complex journey of surviving an abusive relationship.
We'll uncover how to begin healing from abusive and toxic relationships—whether it’s domestic violence, sexual assault, or the emotional scars left by narcissistic abuse—and discover the initial steps you can take if you find yourself in a harmful or volatile situation.
Ashley shares her insights on trusting yourself, practicing self-forgiveness, and how we can build healthy foundations in early dating without rushing, falling into self-sabotage, or repeating old patterns.
Together, we’ll talk about how your most loving, authentic self is the best version of you—even if past experiences have left you feeling hardened—and how to shift from a victim mentality to that of a victor.
We'll also ask the tough questions, like are all abusers narcissists? Is there really a rock bottom moment, or is that just an illusion? Why is it so hard to break free from an abuser?
If you're ready to believe in what’s possible, trust your inner voice, and reclaim your power in love and life, then this episode is for you.
Alright Flirties, let’s go on on healing journey with Ashley Maland.
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About our guest: Ashley Taylor Maland is a multi-talented social media influencer, writer, and healing from DV & SA advocate. With a dedicated following of over half a million followers, she has garnered widespread attention for her impactful content, including viral videos that have amassed over 20 million views. Ashley's platform serves as a space for discussions on healing, authenticity, toxic relationships, self-belief, and self-improvement.
Ashley is a resilient single mother who balances her various roles with grace and determination. As the podcast host for “This Is Where We Heal” she utilizes her platform to amplify important conversations and share empowering stories. Using her own experiences to raise awareness and offer support to others facing similar challenges in relationships and healing.
Driven by her belief in the power of authenticity, Ashley strives to inspire and encourage her audience to embrace their true selves, prioritize self-care, and break free from toxic relationships. Her unwavering commitment to personal growth and empowerment has solidified her reputation as a positive force in the online community.
Her podcast “This Is Where We Heal” can be found on Apple, Spotify & YouTube.
Listen to the This is Where We Heal Podcast, and follow Ashley on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube.
About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Sunday Apr 27, 2025
95. How to Not Settle in Dating with Dr. Brianna Diorio
Sunday Apr 27, 2025
Sunday Apr 27, 2025
Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re talking about how to not settle in dating with relationship coach, doctor of integrative medicine, and host of the Brianna Approved podcast, it’s Dr. Brianna Diorio!
We've got a lot to get to today and here’s what you can expect!
First, we'll explore what it really means to “settle” in dating and the different ways it shows up - whether that's settling for the wrong person, someone’s potential, or accepting singleness when you don’t wanna, We’ll talk about the experience of staying too long in the wrong relationships, sometimes because we have so much invested already, or don’t want to be alone.
Brianna will guide us through common scenarios like the quest for perfection, the role of fear in all of this (so many of us are worried about settling), and the difference between preferences and priorities in dating.
Finally, we’ll discuss why discernment and alignment are more important than time, and we’ll hear strategies for trusting your intuition and knowing when to walk away if that’s right for you.
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering how to slow down in dating and let go of the “settling” trap, this episode is for you!
Let’s do this Flirties, and meet Brianna!
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About our guest: Dr. Brianna Diorio is a functional medicine practitioner and integrative health expert who helps individuals move from awareness to aligned action by integrating mindset, neurochemistry, and holistic health. With a PhD in Integrative Medicine and advanced training in functional diagnostics and mind-body medicine, she specializes in uncovering the root causes of emotional and physiological imbalances.
Her method blends the science of behavior change, subconscious reprogramming, and integrative medicine—using a fusion of evidence-based tools, reflective prompts, and actionable strategies to drive intentional, lasting change. Drawing from integrative psychology, neurobiology, and functional medicine, Brianna empowers clients to rewrite outdated patterns, develop emotional agility, and reclaim their personal power.
You can stream the Brianna Approved Podcast here and follow Dr. Diorio on Instagram and TikTok.
About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Thursday Apr 24, 2025
Thursday Apr 24, 2025
Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re going on a transformative journey of embodied healing with Eliah Prichard, Founder of the Feel Good Membership and Host of the Self Expression Love Podcast!
Today, we explore what it means to truly feel safe in your body.
Eliah guides us through the art of self-expression through embodiment as a way to feel our feelings - and release them.
We’re moving beyond traditional models of nervous system regulation and getting truly embodied today, ya’ll!
We’ll also learn how boundaries help us regulate our nervous system, build self-trust and allows us to embrace more joy.
Even if any or all of this has been hard for you before, today, it gets easier.
Finally, we explore the truth behind your anxiety and why one of the solutions is playing more.
So, if you're ready to break free from limitations, tap into your inner light, and truly live with embodied healing and self-love, this episode is for you.
Let’s do this Flirties, and meet Eliah!
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About our guest: Eliah Prichard is a therapeutically-trained coach, educator and the founder of Kaleidoscope, a self-liberation company that guides you with simple tools to lifelong emotional wellness and full self-expression. Utilizing her Master’s degree in Couples and Family Therapy, specialty in trauma-healing and her Breathwork Facilitator Certification, Eliah runs an online self-healing membership called FeelGood, and works 1:1 with self-motivated learners ready to unlock the codes to emotional mastery, healthy relationships and vibrant self-expression.
Links:
FeelGood Membership
Instagram
Tiktok
YouTube
Self-Expression Lab Podcast
About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Sunday Apr 20, 2025
Sunday Apr 20, 2025
Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Connell Barrett, a men’s dating coach, author, speaker, and host of the How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast, to have a conversation with us about dating as a straight guy, masculinity, and what women are looking for, but not in a mansplainy way, absolutely not!
Basically if you’re straight, stick around as we break down the challenges, myths, and expectations that seem to define the dating game.
Up for discussion is masculinity and is it being redefined? What does masculinity mean and what does that look like in 2025? Why do so many guys seems to aspire to be the alpha male and is that something women want? Will you stand out as the alpha male or do women want something more authentic?
We’re also covering practical flirting tips and strategies to overcome rejection, we’ll debunk viral dating advice such as he needs to like you more than you like him or that a little stress is the secret to a chase - just be unavailable, right?.
We’ll even get into whether looks and money really matter, how to bring genuine vulnerability into your interactions without coming off too mushy, and how emotionally available men and women can meet in each other.
So, if you’re ready to hear a conversation about flirting, dating, and masculinity between a straight man and a flirt coach, this episode is for you!
Let’s do this flirties, time to meet Connell!
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About our guest: A seasoned interviewer dating to his journalism days (he has done Q&As with Jimmy Fallon, Larry David, and Bill Murray, among others), Connell is a dating coach, author and host of the "How to Get a Girlfriend Podcast". His bestselling book, “Dating Suck but You Don’t,” was called “witty and timely” by Vanity Fair. He’s been dubbed “the real-life Hitch” (N.Y. Post) and “the most innovative dating coach in America” (Psychology Today.) And he has appeared on GMA and the “Today” Show.
Learn more about him at DatingTransformation.com.
Questions? Don’t hesitate to ask!
For more information, find Connell on Instagram, Youtube, and his website!
About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Thursday Apr 17, 2025
92. Empowered Intimacy: Sexual Confidence, Expression and Freedom with Lola Jean
Thursday Apr 17, 2025
Thursday Apr 17, 2025
Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Lola Jean, a multifaceted sex educator, fetish wrestler, and world record holder to the show for a conversation about sexual confidence, empowerment, and freedom!
We'll explore whether sexual confidence is an innate gift or a skill that can be developed (hint: if you don’t feel like or aren’t sure you got it, Lola Jean is so here for you).
We'll also hear about common obstacles that can keep us from feeling sexually confident and Lola Jean shares strategies for empowering our sexual selves (one of the keys may lie in self pleasure 😛).
Also up for discussion are practical communication tools for the bedroom, ways to overcome shame, and how you can create sexy eye contact, even if that makes you nervous!
Finally, we’ll explore sex appeal and sensuality, the role of validation in sex, and break down the differences between kinks and fetishes.
So, if you're ready to get real, have some fun, and learn how to unleash your sexual power, then this episode is for you!
Let’s do this, Flirties, and meet Lola Jean!
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About our guest: Lola Jean is a Sex Educator, Fetish Wrestler, headmistress of 7 Days of Domination, and World Record Holder for Volume Squirting (solo) providing the No Frills Sex Education we both need and deserve.
Lola brings a refreshing understanding to sex, sexuality, and kink to push individuals past what they think they are capable of. You can find more on her classes, work and upcoming projects at lolajean.com and on most social media platforms at @lolajeandotcom.
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More on the 7 Days of Domination video series here.
About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Sunday Apr 13, 2025
91. Celebrity Energy and Becoming the Ultimate Attractor with Whitney Uland
Sunday Apr 13, 2025
Sunday Apr 13, 2025
Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, I'm thrilled to kickoff a transformative episode with celebrity coach Whitney Uland about how you can harness the power of celebrity energy to become the ultimate attractor in your dating life!
We'll get into what celebrity energy really is, how heart-brain coherence can supercharge your authenticity, and why overcoming the fear of being perceived - of being seen for who you are - is the key to standing out in the dating world.
Whitney breaks down the three main blocks that hold us back from tapping into this energy and shares how you can tap more deeply into your own celebrity energy right now.
We’ll also explore how developing an abundance mindset helps you see possibilities even when they're not immediately clear, why finding fulfillment in life ensures that dating remains a part of your journey—and not your entire story, and why its ok to want more.
Plus, you'll hear a personal story of self-love and belief from the Flirt Coach himself, and how I've used celebrity energy to help get me here today.
So, if you're ready to tap into your celebrity energy and become irresistible in your dating life, this episode is for you!
Let’s do this, Flirties!
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About our guest: Whitney Uland is a filmmaker, actor, and the creator of How to Be Famous—dubbed “Hollywood’s Next Power Player” by Paper Magazine. Her work has been featured at Cannes and in Vogue, and her viral programs The Self-Made Celebrity and The Celebrity Energy Circuit have helped thousands of creatives tap into their It Factor and become magnetic to fame, fans, and opportunity. Through her signature frameworks rooted in human psychology and Hollywood secrets, Whitney is on a mission to help good-hearted, wildly talented people stop playing small and finally take up space like the stars they are.
You can connect with Whitney on Instagram, and TikTok.
Her free Masterclass The Fame Formula: Learn to attract the success, opportunities, money and relationships that you want as an artist or creative without hacking the algorithm, sucking up to industry gatekeepers, OR becoming a Nepo Baby https://signup.howtobefamous.org/
About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Thursday Apr 10, 2025
90. From Body Dysmorphia to Self Love in Dating with Daniel O'Shaughnessy
Thursday Apr 10, 2025
Thursday Apr 10, 2025
Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re gonna do some healing with our guest Daniel O'Shaughnessy—a mindset coach, nutritionist, and author—who is here to have a conversation with us about self-love and body dysmorphia.
Inside, we explore how to break free from toxic relationship patterns and stop searching for love in all the wrong places—even when ‘wrong’ feels so right. Daniel will share how he did just and explain how shadow work can help.
Cuz if we can embrace the parts of ourselves we often neglect or even don’t like, well, everything just becomes a little easier.
We’ll also peel back the layers of body dysmorphia—what it is, how these perceptions form, and the ways it can impact our dating lives.
Through this, we’ll learn how to reimagine our relationship not only with our emotional body, but also with our physical one.
And, if that isn’t enough, we’ll journey into the realm of mental health and plant medicine. Daniel will reveal what his experiences with psychedelics have taught him about healing, transformation, and the powerful shifts that have happened.
So, if you're ready to challenge your old beliefs, embrace every part of yourself, and step into a more fulfilled way of living and loving, this episode is for you.
Let’s do this Flirties!
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About our guest: Daniel O’Shaughnessy (he/him) is an award-winning nutritionist, Certified Functional Medicine Practitioner, and author of Naked Nutrition: An LGBTQ+ Guide to Diet and Lifestyle. With over a decade of clinical experience and a passion for inclusive wellness, his work is deeply rooted in his own lived experience of healing—particularly around body image, disordered eating, and the pressures faced within the gay community.
Through both his clinical practice and personal journey, Daniel helps others challenge toxic norms, rebuild their relationship with food and their bodies, and prioritise health over perfection. His forthcoming book, Letting Go of Perfect: A Gay Man’s Guide to Healing from Body Dysmorphia, is an honest and practical guide for anyone looking to do just that.
You can connect with Daniel on Instagram or on the web.
About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Tuesday Apr 08, 2025
Flirtini #15: Are They Flirting or Being Nice? with Jenna Anderson
Tuesday Apr 08, 2025
Tuesday Apr 08, 2025
Coming up in this Flirtini, we’re asking the question, "Are they flirting, or just being nice?"
It’s a tale as old as time in the flirt and today, we’re gonna help you figure this out as we welcome friendship coach Jenna Anderson to the show!
Fueled by a real life flirt at TJ Maxx, we’ll break down how to tell if someone’s flirting with you and why it's less about them and more about you.
We’re also talking about making new friends, regardless of whether you’re an introvert, an extrovert, a social butterfly, or socially anxious. I know it can feel daunting, but after this Flirtini, I think it’ll be a little bit easier.
Finally, Jenna gets personal, sharing her bisexuality journey in dating, what it was like dating her first woman, and the lessons she’s learned along the way.
So, whether you want to make a move or just feel more confident putting yourself out there, this episode is for you!
Let’s do this, Flirties!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!
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About our guest: Jenna is a friendship coach from Los Angeles working with clients to build the confidence and skills to make friends anywhere they go. Growing up, Jenna has had to move from city to city and start over making friends everywhere she went. As an adult, she has honed this skill and loves helping other people do the same! She works with a range of clients - from those with social anxiety to anyone who just moved to a new city and is looking to make new friends.
You can connect with Jenna on TikTok, Instagram, and learn more about coaching opportunities here.
About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Sunday Apr 06, 2025
Sunday Apr 06, 2025
Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Anna Goldfarb to the show, a journalist, speaker, and author of the book "Modern Friendship, How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections” to have a conversation with us about friendship - and so much more!
So much to get to as we take on friendship in adulthood and the modern phenomenon many of us can relate to of where is home?
What if we’ve moved around a lot as kids, as adults, or our families have relocated? What if we find ourselves in new places or maybe it's our friends who have moved away? How does this impact our friendships?
We’ll also dig into the sociology of friendship—are our societies set up for making connections? If not, how can overcome both visible and invisible barriers and create connections anyway?
Then from parallel play to active vs. memorial friendships, we’re breaking down different friendship dynamics, the reasons we make friends in the first place, and the qualities we look for in friends.
Plus we'll touch on the loneliness epidemic, (why are so many of feeling lonely these days?) and the role of social media in our connections.
Finally, what does hyper-individualism, or an "I don’t owe anyone anything" mentality mean for our connections, relationships, and friendships?
So, if you’re curious to eavesdrop on a conversation about modern friendship between a bonafide friendship expert and a flirt coach, this episode is for you!
Let’s get into it!, Flirties!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!
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About our guest: Anna Goldfarb's reporting on friendships has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME , Vox, and more. Her book, Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections, explores the challenges of navigating adult friendships in a hyperfluid world. She also publishes Friendship Explained, a Substack newsletter that explains the mechanics of friendship through a pop culture lens. Find her online @AnnaGoldfarb and her website.
About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Thursday Apr 03, 2025
88. Red Flags, Green Flags, and Why We Date the People We Do with Dr. Joe Kort
Thursday Apr 03, 2025
Thursday Apr 03, 2025
Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re diving deep into the psychology of attraction, the patterns that shape our relationships, and how we can make more conscious choices in dating - and in love.
We welcome Dr. Joe Kort, a psychotherapist, author, and relationship expert, who will help us understand why we date the people we do.
We'll open talking about masculinity a bit, touching on the topics of performative masculinity, validation, and male on male flirting!
Then we'll get into what red and green flags in dating really mean—and some common misconceptions about them.
What red flags should you be looking for? What about green flags? And why does this matter?
Next we'll explore Imago Relationship Therapy and how our childhood experiences influence our type and attraction in dating.
Why do we sometimes feel drawn to those who aren’t good for us? And more importantly, how do we break free from those cycles?
So if you're ready to date with a new perspective on red flags, green flags, and why we date the people we do, this episode is for you!
Let’s do this Flirties, and meet Joe!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!
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About our guest: Dr. Joe Kort is a psychotherapist, certified sex therapist and clinical director of The Center for Relationship Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is the author of four books and a lecturer and facilitator of therapeutic workshops.
Throughout his 37 years of private practice, he has successfully helped hundreds of individuals and couples improve their lives and strengthen their relationships. Dr. Kort specializes in marital problems and conflicts; mixed orientation marriages; male sexuality and out-of-control sexual behaviors.
He is EMDR trained and offers LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy. Dr. Kort can be found on Instagram, TIkTok, Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn @drjoekort and his website is www.JoeKort.com
About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

Meet the Flirt Coach!
Hello! My name is Benjamin. I'm the Flirt Coach and a gay libra! As a life long introvert and socially anxious member of society, connecting with people was one of the hardest things in the world for me to do. Making friends and going on dates were really challenging!
I would always be so in my head about wanting to talk, but feeling like I couldn't. The words would get stuck and I would put so much pressure on myself to say the right thing. I was also really disconnected from myself for most of my life.
But I believe SO MUCH in the power of connection and that we're here to learn from one another. To share moments and memories. Laughter and stories. To have hard conversations that lead us more deeply inward toward authenticity.
This is now what I have dedicated my life to! Connection - with others and with yourself. Whether you're dating, single (and maybe not dating!), or in a relationship, the Flirt Coach mission and Flirtations is for YOU! 💗