Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

36. The Confidence Episode! with Silky Nutmeg Ganache

Confidence is one of the most alluring, captivating, and powerful qualities a person can have ... yet it can also be one of the most elusive!
In the first official confidence! episode of Flirtations, we welcome superstar Silky Nutmeg Ganache on the show to inspire us to be our most authentic, confident selves!
Throughout this conversation, we answer questions like:
Where does confidence come from? Is it something we're born with? How do you build it, create it?
Can you feel confident in some areas of your life and not in others?
What if you don't feel confident in your dating life, how can you become more confident?
How do you show up with courage when you have fear and feelings of low self esteem?
What can you do in the face of rejection when you feel like your confidence has been knocked down?
You don't wanna miss the absolute nuggets of gold in this episode as we talk all things confidence!
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About our guest: Hailing from Moss Point, Mississippi, Silky Nutmeg Ganache has established her presence and legacy through the Emmy Award winning show RuPaul’s Drag Race. Appearing on three seasons - RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 11, RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars Season 6 - as well as Canada’s Drag Race, Canada VS the world - Silky has managed to be the finalist on 2 seasons. She currently holds the record of Most Lip Syncs won (9 Collectively).
Silky is also referred to as “The Reverend Doctor Silky Nutmeg Ganache,” due to her Masters Degree in Organizational Leadership and current pursuit of becoming a doctor in Philosophy. Education is the single thing in life that no one could ever take away from you. That was the message ingrained in Silky by her 86 year-old educator-grandmother. 
Finding inspiration for her name while watching The Food Network, Silky Nutmeg Ganache, describes herself as a southern bell who speaks the truth and will always lend a helping hand.  As a child, Silky was obsessed with the Food Network. While other children were tuned in to cartoons, Silky was tuned in to Emeril Lagasse instead.
Like many others, Silky sees the importance and responsibility of being a drag entertainer. When asked about her legacy, Silky shared, "I want everyone to know that as drag queens, we are greater than entertainers. We are doctors, lawyers, politicians, educators, etc. I hope to be the example through my accomplishments in education and through the many people I’ve enrolled and inspired to pursue higher education."
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

Flirtini #1: How to Know if They (and You!) Are Ready to Date

Welcome to the very first Flirtini on Flirtations!
Today, we're hopping in the emotional C.A.R. to answer the question, "How can I know if they are ready to date?"
We'll also using this tool to answer the same question for yourself - how to know if you're ready to date!
I love a good acronym and C.A.R. stands for capacity, availability, and readiness.
While I will always advocate for clarity through communication - simply asking them if they are ready - we all know dating isn't *always* this cut and dry.
So, fasten your seatbelts and let's hop in the C.A.R.! 
Vroom vroom!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

35. From First Impression to First Date with Matchmaker Daniel Cooley

On this episode of Flirtations, we're going from first impression to first date, y'all!
Let's set the scene. You walk into a party. A singles event. Networking get together. Really any social situation where you're looking to mix 'n mingle ... and maybe come away with a first date at the end of it all! This is where today's episode takes place!
As we answer questions like ...
How can you break the ice? Do first impressions really matter as much as we think?
What are some conversation tips? What if the person that caught your eye is always with other people, what are strategies to introduce yourself that seem natural?
How can you turn someone down that expresses interest in you, but you don't feel the same way?
What are some ways to manage social anxiety and feel more confident? 
What about asking for their number and setting up a date?
How about flirting tricks?!
All of this and MORE is waiting for you inside this episode as we welcome expert matchmaker Daniel Cooley on the show for this conversation!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!
About our guest:  Daniel Cooley is a celebrity gay matchmaker, executive love recruiter, co-owner of Best Man Matchmaking for queer and gay men based in Los Angeles, CA. You can learn more about Daniel and ways to work with him on his website and Instagram!
Thirteen years ago, Daniel founded “The Thrive Tribe,” a nonprofit organization in West Hollywood dedicated to combating the stigma of HIV and AIDS while supporting Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer men in accessing PrEP.  
Known as “The Divine Connector,” Daniel transformed a small group into a vibrant community of thousands, helping many find meaningful gay relationships.  
With over a decade of experience as a massage therapist, Daniel primarily served GBTQ clients, forming deep connections and witnessing firsthand the loneliness and struggles some face in their search for love.  
In 2023, after connecting hundreds of gay men through his nonprofit and massage practice, Daniel met Anthony through retired Gay Matchmaker Mason Glen. Inspired by their successful collaborations, Daniel embraced the role of Matchmaker. With a unique blend of expertise in nonprofit work, real estate, entertainment, massage therapy, and spirituality, he is devoted to fostering conscious, queer connections for men ready to find their perfect match!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!
 

34. Royal Romance: Insights into the Dating Lives of European Royals with Amanda Matta

Today we're taking a peek behind the curtain into the dating lives of European royals!
For this conversation, we welcome Amanda Matta to the show, who has captivated over 2+ million followers on social media as an expert on the British crown and European royals!
We'll be flirting with royalty and having a lot of fun, asking questions like ... Why are royal relationships so intriguing? And inspiring?
How do the royals date? What might their Tinder or Hinge profiles say?
What are some little known stories of romance from inside Buckingham Palace?
Who was the greatest royal matchmaker?
Are there eligible royal bachelors available to date right now?!
You'll find the answers to all these questions and more inside this episode!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!
About our guest:  Amanda Matta (@matta_of_fact) is TikTok's #1 royal commentator. Since 2021, she has provided historical context and contemporary insight into the never-ending royal news cycle. She is also the host and producer of the podcast Art of History. You can follow her on TikTok, Instagram, and subscribe to her royal newsletter, The Fascinator.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

33. Dating Deliciously: How to Bring More Fun, Pleasure, and Desire into Dating with Torah Cents

Are you ready to date deliciously?!
On this episode, we welcome Torah Cents, who is going to give us all the details on how to infuse more fun, passion, pleasure, and desire into your dating life for an ultimately delicious experience!
We'll hear how to date deliciously on the apps and in person, creating engaging conversations that are sure to keep things interesting - and lead to to dates! Of course we've got some tips on how to flirt deliciously, too!
But that's not all. We'll be talking about how to savor confidence and feel more empowered and secure when meeting new people and going through the dating process. If you don't know what lover girl limits just yet  - and why you need them - you'll soon find out!
Finally, we've got wrapped up in this episode several mindset shifts to date with more presence, more ease, and more calm so you can make truly inspired connections, get out of your head, and enjoy just how delicious dating can be!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!
About our guest:  TorahCents is known for her practical and unorthodox approach to dating for Women of Faith. She believes that dating should be delicious…and if it’s not…you’re doing it wrong.
She has helped thousands of women attract quality men, confidently date for the relationships they desire and has been fully launched on a mission to help women of faith create real options in men and  choose themselves first (instead of waiting for a man to choose them). 
🔥 She’s the Founder of Curved to Cuffed™️ - the #1 mentorship for successful women of faith who want to attract quality, marriage-minded men. ⁣
⁣💍 And the Creator of the Triple Threat Success Method™️ that has helped women go from no dates to a wedding date in less than a year. ⁣⁣
And when she’s not coaching you may see her releasing new episodes of her podcast, learning new tricks in her pole dancing class, spending time with her family and meeting up with her clients in different areas of the country. You can also follow Torah on Instagram!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

32. Your Fall Dating Horoscope + Cuffing Season Dating Guide with Fernie!

Fernie is BACK on Flirtations to share with us in this episode our fall dating horoscope and dating guide for cuffing season! 
What is cuffing season? What do the stars hold for our dating lives these next few months?
What should we be focusing on out there dating this upcoming season?
Are there big themes the universe has in store for our love lives? How will this impact us out there dating and making connections?
How can we bring more fun, desire, and pleasure into our dating lives?
All of this and MORE is waiting for you in this episode!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!
For more information on how to use astrology in your dating life and find out your "big three," check out episode 2 of Flirtations where we went into all of this!
About our guest:  Fernie Salinas (he/they) is a queer Latinx fortune telling witch from the Rio Grande Valley in Texas.  They are the owner and founder of Golden Mirror Fortunes, and they hope to be Your Favorite Fortune Teller! They grew up always knowing that magic was around us, as their great-grandfather and his son, their grand-uncle, were both curanderos (folk healers) in Rio Grande City, and it’s been such a delight to have Golden Mirror Fortunes carry on the legacy of healing and mysticism they instilled in him.
He’s also an educator — he went to Rice University, studied English and Art History, got their teacher’s certification, joined TFA, and have been a teacher and principal at various schools in the RGV.  He is currently an education consultant as well as running Golden Mirror Fortunes, their small fortune telling business.  He uses tarot and magic to help people heal and find their paths, all in service of improving their fortunes.  His deepest desire is to provide you with the light that you need to make your life a little more magical and glittery. Follow them on Instagram and let them be your favorite fortune teller!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

31. Dating Outside Your Type with Ali Jackson

Do you have a type? What does having a type mean, anyway? Is it just the way someone looks? Does type equate to a personality? Interests? Career? Or even energy?
Today on Flirtations, we’re demystifying what “type” actually means, learning how to date outside our type, and uncovering WHY this should part of your dating strategy!
We welcome Ali Jackson to the show for this discussion, a NYC based dating coach, and together, we'll explore how dating a certain type can limit our dating experiences and why expanding our concept of WHO we're truly attracted to can be the key to finding fulfilling relationships.
So whether you feel stuck in your dating life, are going after - or attracting -  the same type, or are curious about what lies beyond your 'type,' this episode is for you!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!
About our guest:  Ali Jackson is an NYC-based dating & relationship coach who’s been there, in the trenches, looking for her person. She’s learned to own her needs, embrace her feelings, and communicate both directly. And she’s helping you do the same! Because when you ask for what you want, you just might get it. You can find her on social media @findingmrheight (Instagram and Tik Tok) and on her website findingmrheight.com.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

30. Situationships, FWBs, and the Rules of Casual Dating with Madison Brandt

Let’s talk about the rules of casual dating, y’all!
On this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Madison Brandt, a fellow dating coach and host of the Deep Talk podcast, to cover alllll the bases (and rules) of casual dating. Y’all came through with questions for this one and we lawd did we answer them!
Questions like, “What is casual dating, anyway?" "How do I know if I'm in a  situationship?” “How about friends with benefits, what makes that particular connection what it is?” “Can either become more?” 
“What if I catch feels for my casual dating partner, how can I know if they feel the same way?” “Are there rules to casual dating? Is it bad if that’s what I want to do?” "How can I manage my expectations, my mind - and my heart?"
I don’t think I have much more to tease, you’re ready for this one!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!
About our guest:  Madison Brandt is a Dating & Relationship Coach and the host of the Deep Talk Podcast. She's passionate about helping people both find — and keep — a healthy relationship. Madison currently resides in Minneapolis, MN and takes clients virtually. To work with Madison, please visit her website. To follow along with her content, find her at Instagram @wellnessmads or tune into her podcast on Apple or Spotify.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!
 

29. The Roles of Love, Healing, and Childhood Family Dynamics in Dating with Todd Baratz

On this episode of Flirtations, we’re taking on three big topics that lie at heart of how we connect, how we date, and how we form relationships!
Up for discussion are the the roles of love, healing, and our childhood family dynamics in dating, and to have this conversation with us is Todd Baratz. Todd is a licensed mental mental health counselor and author of the book “How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind.” You may also know him from the uber popular Instagram page he founded, @yourdiagnonsense (giving some of the BEST dating and relationship advice anywhere on the internet).
Together, we’ll talk about what love truly is, as well as the differences between self love and relational love. If you’re single and dating and feel like you’ve got allll the love for yourself but something is still missing, you don’t want to miss this part of the episode!
But there’s much more. We also talk about healing and the differences between self healing and relational healing. If you’re listening to this, you’re probably on a healing journey, seeking to understand more about yourself, what you want out of life, and heal past wounds, traumas, and hurt. I hope this part of the episode is helpful in your healing journey!
Finally, we’ll explore how the relationships we have, or maybe don’t have, with our parents influence our dating lives, and how understanding these deep-rooted dynamics can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections. 
So much to talk about, let’s get into this episode on how love, healing, and family dynamics impact how we date and who we choose to love.
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and share this episode to spread BFE - big flirt energy, all over the world!
About our guest:  Todd Baratz, LMHC, is a licensed mental health counselor, certified sex therapist, author, and creator of the Instagram page @yourdiagnonsense. Todd's book, "How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind:  Forget the Fairytale and Get Real," is now available wherever books are sold. You can further connect with Todd online and find ways to work with him here.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

28. Dating the Good Guy with a Bad Boy Edge with Taylor Byrd and Knox Peake

On this episode of Flirtations, we're taking on the intriguing world of the "Good Guy with a Bad Boy Edge!"
What makes this combination so irresistible? How can you navigate the unique dynamics of such a fella? What about dating this guy?!
Whether you're drawn to the dependable nature of the good guy or the thrill and mystery of the bad boy, this episode offers something for you!
With our guests Taylor Byrd and Knox Peake, we'll break down the characteristics that define these dual-natured individuals, discuss the challenges and benefits of dating them, and provide tips on how to find balance in dating this enticing individual.
Tune in for a fun, lighthearted, and informative discussion that will leave you with a fresh perspective on love and dating. Whether you're currently dating a good guy with a bad boy edge or just curious about the allure, this episode is a must-listen!
We'll also be getting into some "Southern Dating Secrets" as an added bonus!
Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and review Flirtations on your favorite podcast platform, and follow us on social media for more dating tips and insights!
About our guests: 
The tea ain't the only thing sweet around here. An Alabama boy with a NYC mouth, giving you belly laughs and jaw drops like clock work, Taylor Byrd, who you may now as "Sweet T," has built a platform of 2 million+ across social media with his authenticity and candid takes about life. You can follow him on TikTok and Instagram!
Knox Peake is a global adventurer and content creator who grew up and currently lives in North Carolina. Knox is passionate about the outdoors, travel, fashion, dogs, and more. He is an LGBTQ+ rights advocate and offers his audience daily inspiration and positivity. He grew his Instagram page organically and has partnered with brands such as Saucony Footwear, JCPenney, Swiss Army Knife, Land Rover, Ritz-Carlton, Food Lion, Sheetz, StarKist, Bojangles, LifeStance Health, The Vitamin Shoppe, Nutro Pet Food, and multiple beer brewers as well as many men’s grooming brands. In addition, he has collaborated with various travel and hospitality organizations. He has multiple upcoming campaigns that are true to his heart and you can find him on Instagram and Threads @knoxpeake and his website www.knoxpeake.com.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!