Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

69. Let's Talk About Sex: Libidos, Desire, and Connection with Hannah Deindorfer

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have Hannah Deindorfer, the Libido Fairy!, on the show to explore with us physical intimacy, libidos, and sex in dating!
Up for discussion are questions around consent, desire, and the touch barrier, and we'll play in the space of intimacy here as we talk about different ways to connect with your partner or partners on that physical level. We even go into your kissing dilemmas! 
But that’s not all. Hannah will also offer guidance on how to navigate mismatched libidos, responsive vs. spontaneous desire, what to do in those moments when intimacy dips, and how to communicate your desires - without any shame.
So, whether you're struggling with desire differences, looking to strengthen emotional intimacy, or simply curious about how to approach these conversations in dating, this episode is full of actionable advice that is sure to keep the spark alive!
C’mon flirties, let’s meet Hannah!
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About our guest:  Hannah Deindorfer, also known as "The Libido Fairy," has helped hundreds of women who struggle with low libido feel more connected to their partners and look forward to intimacy again. With her expertise in somatic and emotional healing, she guides women through practical steps to rekindle desire.
You can connect with Hannah on Instagram, YouTube, and the web!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

68. Dating After Sexual Assault with Claire Perelman

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, I’m joined by certified sex Claire Perelman for an important conversation about dating after sexual assault. 
Together, we explore the complexities of reclaiming your sense of self in dating and relationships while navigating boundaries, consent, and personal healing. 
I also share my own story, opening up about the challenges of feeling safe while dating and the journey of learning to trust myself - and others - again.
We discuss how trauma impacts the nervous system and the common experience of self-abandonment—doing whatever it takes to keep someone close. We’ll offer insights on how to reconnect with your body, heal your nervous system, and approach dating in a way that feels empowering and safe.
This episode is a powerful reminder that healing is possible and that you deserve it all, flirty! Let’s do this!
Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions sexual assault and trauma so please listen with care and if you or someone you love needs support, resources are linked in the show notes below. We are here to help.
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About our guest:  Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish Sex Therapist and Educator living and working in the Bay Area. Her work with clients, workshops, podcasts, and social media focuses on making sex education more accessible and normalizing sexual pleasure and play in people’s lives. Like many therapists, she channeled her greatest source of pleasure and heartbreak into her area of focus, leading her to specialize in therapy for sex and intimacy with couples, individuals, and polycules. You can find her at @sexclarified (on all platforms) and www.sexclarified.com
Further resources for the USA below. If you have international resources, please share those with me and I will add here to the show notes! 
The National Sexual Violence Resource Center
RAINN:  National Sexual Assault Hotline
Planned Parenthood
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

67. Depression and Dating with Kaleigh Smith

Coming up in this episode of Flirtations, registered psychotherapist Kaleigh Smith is back on the show for an honest conversation about depression and dating!
We'll explore what depression really feels like, how it can impact our ability to connect with others, and the unique challenges it brings to forming and maintaining relationships. 
I also open up about my personal journey with depression, which I’ve experienced pretty much my whole life, and share this part of me with you in hopes that it will be supportive and healing. 
Kaleigh and I talk about ways to communicate your mental health needs with potential partners while still prioritizing your own well-being, share about how depression can affect emotional availability in dating and why self-compassion is so important. Plus ways to love yourself a little bit harder!
If you’ve ever felt like depression has made dating feel overwhelming or isolating, we’re here to remind you that you’re not alone and that it’s possible to find connection, even in the hardest moments. 
Trigger warning: This episode includes raw discussion of mental health, so please listen with care and if you or someone you love needs support, resources are linked in the show notes below and we are here to help.
Alright flirties, let’s meet Kaleigh and do this!
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About our guest:  Kaleigh is a Registered Psychotherapist practicing in Ontario, Canada, and the clinic owner of Yellow Serenity Counselling & Psychotherapy. She completed a Specialist Degree in Mental Health (HBSc) at the University of Toronto, a post-graduate certification in mental health interventions at Seneca College, followed by a master’s degree in Counselling Psychology at Yorkville University.
As an ADHDer, Kaleigh brings a lived experience perspective to her psychotherapy practice. She understands the nuances of navigating daily life with ADHD, from managing executive function challenges to embracing the unique ways of neurodivergent thinking.
As a proud member of CADDRA and a Certified Clinical Services Provider for ADHD treatment, she offers specialized, affirming care for neurodivergent individuals. Her goal as a therapist is to empower neurodivergent individuals and enhance their overall well-being through personalized, neurodivergent-affirming therapy. You can connect with Kaleigh on Instagram and via the web.
Resources mentioned in the episode:  
In Canada, you can call or text 988 if in in a crisis and need immediate support. You can also access information on mental health support via the web here.
In the US, you can also call or text 988 and access live chat support here.
For more support and information, please check out the Mental Health America website.
If you are listening from other countries, please leave a comment here (if you feel comfortable doing that) or send me a message on social media where help in your country can be accesed/found and I will update the show notes here!
You are never alone in your fight to survive!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

66. Attachment Theory and How to Develop Secure Attachments in Dating with Lauren Zamora

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have licensed marriage and family therapist and dating coach Lauren Zamora to talk about one of the hottest topics when it comes to dating and relationships — attachment theory. 
We’re breaking down what attachment theory is, how our attachment styles develop and the different types, and what it truly means to feel secure in love and relationships.
We’ll also explore the core wounds behind both anxious and avoidant attachment styles, how these wounds show up in dating, and why the anxious/avoidant dynamic plays out so often. Why does this duo seem to attract each other?
Plus, we’ll discuss communication, whether attachment styles follow gender roles, and perhaps most importantly—how to start healing attachment wounds and build a more secure, connected relationship with both yourself and others.
If you’re ready to deepen your self-awareness and create more secure, fulfilling relationships, this episode is for you.
Let’s go flirties, time to meet Lauren!
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About our guest:  Lauren Zamora is a licensed therapist and dating coach passionate about helping women in their 30s heal attachment wounds, overcome dating anxiety, and find healthy, fulfilling relationships. With a direct yet empathetic approach, Lauren blends inner child healing, attachment theory, and practical strategies to guide her clients in breaking free from old patterns and embracing secure, confident love.
Having personally navigated years of toxic dating cycles before meeting her husband, Lauren understands the struggles of modern dating firsthand. She now dedicates her work to empowering women to rewrite their dating stories, feel less anxious, and become attracted to partners who truly honor them.
When she’s not supporting clients through her virtual therapy practice, Therapy with Lo, Lauren creates engaging content on her Instagram account Dating with Lo , where she shares insights, tips, and real talk about dating, relationships, and self-worth. Her brand voice—warm, caring, fun, and a little bold—resonates with women (and all genders) who are ready to step into their most empowered selves.
You can connect with Lauren on Instagram!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

64. Wear Your Confidence: Flirting Through Personal Style with Mark King and Matt King

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’ve got Mark King and Matt King as we flirt with personal style!
Mark and Matt have got soooo much for you inside as we explore what having style even means and how you can feel crazy, sexy, cool, and confident in what you wear!
Don’t have a personal style? We got you and by the end of the episode, you will!
We'll also talk about the "glow up", dressing for different body types, finding your signature color, how to build a wardrobe, what’s on trend, and answer burning questions like what to wear on a first date!
We'll also go into gender expression through clothing and how you can build a personal style that not only showcases who you are but also allows you to express yourself authentically.
It’s time to flirt with your style!
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About our guests:  Mark King is fashion stylist and tattoo artist with a background in modeling and fashion design. They studied menswear design in university and worked as fashion designer and menswear buyer for many years. They started modeling at a young age with their twin Matthew Jordan and are now a freelance stylist and a full time tattoo artist. 
You can connect with Mark on Instagram!
Matt King, born in a small town in North Carolina, started modeling at 10 years old. He worked i the  fashion industry worldwide as a model and stylist, and is now a model agent.
You can connect with Matt on Instagram!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

65. From Anxious to Secure: How I Healed My Anxious Attachment with Mimi Watt

It's Attachment Theory Week on Flirtations!
Coming up on this episode, we welcome dating coach Mimi Watt to the show to share her story of going from anxious to secure as we explore the world of anxious attachment in dating!
Mimi breaks down how our attachment styles form and why understanding your attachment style can be a total game-changer in your love life.
If you've ever felt clingy, overly worried about where you stand with someone, or just find yourself caught in dating patterns that leave you feeling anxious—this episode is for you. 
Mimi shares powerful strategies to help you heal, grow, and move toward a more secure, centered connection with yourself and in all of your relationships.
So, whether you’re brand new to attachment theory or already on your healing journey, stick around because this conversation is about to bring some serious clarity and heart-healing advice your way. 
Now let’s meet Mimi! 
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About our guest:  Mimi Watt is a Dating & Relationship coach who helps people become secure within themselves and attract healthy love through healing their anxious attachment style. She does this using her signature Peacefully Attached Framework, which she has built from experience with her journey of becoming securely attached and helping dozens of clients do the same. She is passionate about helping you foster the most important relationship of all, the one you have with yourself. 
You can follow Mimi on Instagram and TikTok!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

Flirtini #12: Flirting at a Coffeeshop! with Sommer Morel

Today's Flirtini takes place at a coffeeshop as we talk about flirting ... at a coffeeshop!
There are three places* you ask for for flirting tips the most and the coffeeshop is one of them! 
For this conversation, we welcome coffee educator, entrepreneur, and former barista Sommer Morel to the show as we answer your flirting questions!
Why are these spaces so good for flirting? How can you use them to your flirt advantage? How can you flirt with someone you see? What if you want to get approached?
Can you flirt with the barista? Do they flirt with customers? How can you tell?
Is coffee a bean or a fruit?
The answers to all these questions and more inside!
*(The other two are work and the gym, see Episode 20 or Flirtini #10 for those flirting details!)
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About our guest:  Sommer Morel is a traveling coffee consultant with a passion to make coffee education accessible for all. With years of expertise in cafe design, barista training and product sourcing, she helps coffee businesses and home enthusiasts elevate their quality and operations.
Balancing her career with her role as a dedicated single mother, she is a true example of resilience and passion, bringing the same level of care to her family as she does to her work. In her personal time she enjoys meditation, yoga, dancing, star gazing, learning more about metaphysical and spiritual practices, and posting these daily experiences on YouTube @sommer_with_an_o.
Website:  www.popupcoffeeeducation.com 
Instagram: @popupcoffeeeducation
TikTok: @popupcoffeeeducation
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

63. Life, Love, and What Matters Most with Rita Smith

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, I'm thrilled to introduce my dear friend Rita!
In this heartwarming conversation, Rita, who now I know I’m not supposed to share a lady’s age, but it comes out in the episode that she’s 95 and ya’ll, Rita is gonna share her invaluable insights on love, relationships, and what truly matters most in life. 
Rita's optimism shines through as we talk about how to stay positive, the importance of connection, communication strategies in dating, what to look for in a partner, how to navigate our differences, and even some flirting tips!
So, whether you're in the dating scene or maybe seeking a fresh perspective on love, this episode is packed with inspiration.Let’s do this flirties!
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

62. Decoding Communication in Dating with Molly McPherson

Coming up in this episode of Flirtations, we welcome crisis communications strategist and PR guru Molly McPherson to the show as we decode communication!
Molly and I discuss essential communication strategies for handling those sometimes hard and awkward, yet necessary, conversations in dating, like how to talk about past relationships and what to say if you maybe need to end things with someone. 
We'll explore ways to know if someone is being honest with you through how they communicate, the power of intentions and, of course, share some clever flirting strategies you can use in your dating lives right now. Such as how to say I like you without saying, I like you!
Molly also introduces us to her indestructible PR framework of "own it, explain it, promise it."
All of this and more awaits you inside the episode as we decode communication in dating. 
Alright flirties, let’s meet Molly!
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About our guest:  Molly is the author of "Indestructible: Reclaim Control and Respond with Confidence in a Media Crisis" and is working on her forthcoming book. 
In her career, she's known as an innovator in crisis communication, from introducing digital media strategies at FEMA to developing some of the first crisis communication web resources as communications director for cruise lines during critical incidents like the 9/11 attacks and the 2002 Norovirus outbreaks.
Her insights have garnered international attention, making her a recurring commentator for respected outlets such as NBC News, NPR, Access Hollywood, and Australia's Today morning show. She has also been a featured commentator on ABC's Impact x Nightline, TMZ Investigates on Fox, and Vice TV's NINE LIVES OF...
Additionally, Molly has provided commentary for outlets such as the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, the BBC, and the Wall Street Journal.
Beyond her media presence, Molly is a celebrated keynote speaker, an Adweek Creative Visionary Award winner, and a Forbes.com contributor in leadership and crisis management. She has helped thousands of people, brands, and companies work through crises using the guiding principles she shares with her clients—own it, explain it, promise it.
You can find out more on my website, TikTok, and Instagram.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

61. The Manifestation Episode! with Sarah Perl

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome the Hot High Priestess, Sarah Perl, to the show! Sarah is a manifestation expert and in this conversation, she will share how you can use manifestation to harness the power of the universe - and the power within you - to create your dream dating life and relationships!
We’ll learn about what manifestation is and how it works, the laws of attraction and how to be the ultimate attractor in your dating life, and how to create a positive mindset with affirmations. 
Sarah will also share what might be blocking you from your manifestations and dating desires, why you should be skeptical, and how to practice detachment so your manifestations can work.
This is too good, I know you’re not going anywhere!
Whether you’re new to manifestation or you’ve been practicing it for a while, this episode has everything you need to manifest your dreams into reality.
Let’s do this flirties!
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About our guest:  Hi! I'm Sarah Perl, better known online as @hothighpriestess. I’m a spiritual, mindset-focused entrepreneur and content creator with a following of over 4.5 million across platforms. I'm the host of the Priestess Perspective Podcast, co-founder of TangoBird Publishing, and the coach behind all programs in the HotHighPriestess universe. I help ambitious souls unlock their limitless potential, manifest extreme wealth, and step into a life of luxury and the love they desire. Whether they're attracting a soulmate or scaling their income, I'm here to guide them there - fast. You can find out more from my links!
Website
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TikTok
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!