Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

27. Boundaries, Communication, and Dating as an Empath with Allison KT

In this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Allison KT on the show to help take on some of the most crucial aspects of dating that will help you date with much more clarity, confidence, and calm!
We start off by break downing what boundaries are, how you will use them in your dating life, and why you need them! Boundaries will be one of the cornerstones of your dating journey.
But we couldn't stop there. Cuz when it comes to setting boundaries, you'll also need communication skills, conflict resolution tools, and likely some strategies to work through people pleasing habits and thoughts! We have got you covered today as we get into ALL of this.
And if you're an empath (and people pleaser) like us, you know first hand how intense the dating process can be! What can you do when you feel EVERYTHING rather intensely? How do you manage your energy? (Spoiler alert:  we'll talk about energetic boundaries here!)
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About our guest:  Allison KT is an IPEC and ICF certified coach, Reiki Master, and EFT tapping practitioner here to help her fellow recovering people-pleasers feel confident standing up for themselves and setting boundaries. She also has a degree in Psychology & Conflict Transformation and loves using her holistic boundary setting approach to help people see difficult conversations differently. In her work as The Grounded Empath she runs the Sacred Self-Care Community and offers a range of coaching programs helping people learn how to set boundaries that feel like loving self-protection. Outside of this, she's also a competitive powerlifter and group fitness instructor.
Take the What Type of People-Pleaser Are You? quiz here and use code FLIRTY30 here to get 30% off her guided ebook and journal to prepare for difficult conversations! You can also find her on IG here: https://instagram.com/the.grounded.empath
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

26. Virtual Reality: How the Media Influences our Dating Lives with Courtney Revolution

On this episode of Flirtations is reality tv star and podcast host Courtney Revolution and together, we're gonna explore how the media influences our dating lives and shapes our perceptions - and expectations - of love.
From reality tv dating shows to social media, and the roles of celebrity and influencer culture on our dating lives, we're getting into all the ways the media impacts the ways we date!
Some questions we explore in this conversation are, "How much of our love lives are influenced by what we see on our screens?" "Are we setting ourselves up by chasing versions of love, dating, romance, and relationships we see on tv and social media?" "How does what we watch impact how we feel about ourselves? And where we're at with dating?"
Join us as we share insights on how to navigate the intersection of media and modern dating and get into some reality tv tea only an insider would know about!
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About our guest:  Courtney Revolution is a pop culture commentator, entertainment host, and lifestyle influencer based in Los Angeles. Best known for his sharp insights and witty commentary on reality TV and celebrity culture, Courtney has captivated audiences as a standout on Netflix's The Circle and as the cohost of the Toast To Tea podcast. With a passion for nostalgia and a mission to inform and inspire, Courtney connects with his audience audiences through content that celebrates the best of pop culture, music, and more!
You can connect with Courtney on Instagram and Tik Tok, and listen to the Toast to Tea Podcast on YouTube!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

25. The Dating Apps Episode! with Damona Hoffman

We're dating on the apps today y'all and swiping RIGHT on this episode!
On the show for this conversation is Damona Hoffman, dating coach extraordinaire, online dating expert, author, podcast host, and dating correspondent for the Drew Barrymore Show (among other accolades)!
Damona takes us through the process of using the dating apps as a tool to meet potential dates and find long lasting romance that begins with our mindset. We then go through the search, the match, and setting up the first date as we learn how to make the apps work for us rather than have them work our nerves!
Along the way, we answer questions like:  Which app should I use? What if I'm frustrated cuz I don't feel they have worked for me in the past? What if I haven't been happy with my quality of matches? What should I put in my profile? What about pictures? How long should I talk on the apps before going on a date? What if I'm feeling burnt out? Do the apps even still work?
Whether you're currently on the apps or thinking about making a profile, if you're asking yourself any of these questions, this episode is for you!
About our guest:  Damona Hoffman is a regular contributor to The Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, and The Washington Post. She was also featured in Season 11 of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. Damona has created content and collaborated with most major dating apps including Bumble, Match, and OkCupid. Her podcast, Dates & Mates, was named Best Podcast of the Year by The Black Podcasting Awards. Damona’s first book, "F the Fairy Tale," was released January 2024 (Hachette/Seal Press) and is endorsed by Dr. Drew Pinsky, Drew Barrymore, Lori Gottlieb and more.
You can connect with Damona on Instagram, online at www.damonahoffman.com, and grab of copy of "F the Fairytale" here. The "Dates and Mates" podcast is streaming on all major podcasting platfroms.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

24. The Fear Episode! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

Is fear holding you back? In flirting? In dating? In love? In life?
I wanted to create a standalone (solo!) episode all about FEAR.
Fear has been one of the most present feelings, emotions, states of being, states of mind ... that I have carried with me for my whole life.
I still carry fear with me, but I no longer allow it to keep me from LIVING.
In this episode, I share the six ways fear presents itself in our dating lives, how we develop these fears, and the role fear plays in our lives. Then I share strategies to move through - and beyond - the fear.
There are two embodiment practices as we flirt with new ways of exploring information here on Flirtations! I've got an original short story for you called "Why the Bear Sleeps" and a body scan meditation all about releasing fear.
I hope you enjoy this episode! Thank you so much for tuning in. Please share this one (or another!) with a friend and don't forget to leave a review! 💗
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
Happy flirting!
 

23. Rejection, Heartbreak, and Saying No in Dating with Sarah Rice

Is rejection truly redirection? What are some other ways to think about rejection in dating? How can you deal with ghosting if it happens? What about a breakup, help! What if you're not feeling a connection and need to end it, but find it difficult to do so?
In this episode of Flirtations, our guest, Sarah Rice, and I will get into all the ways rejection happens in dating and offer reframes to think about it in perhaps whole new ways!
We'll also be asking the question, "does love happen into your life when you least expect it?"
Finally, we've got for you strategies to bring more love into your life, no matter if you're hurting, taking a break, or unsure where to even start your dating journey.
Thank you for checking out this episode! Please leave a rating or view and make sure to learn more about our amazing guest below!
About our guest:  Sarah Rice, AMFT, is a licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and the co-host of the popular podcasts *The Brain Candy* and *This Changes Everything*. With a deep passion for mental health, Sarah brings warmth and insight to her therapy practice, helping clients navigate life’s challenges. She is currently accepting new clients who are residents of California. To learn more or schedule a session, check out Sarah on the web  and you can follow Sarah on Instagram at @imsarahrice. 
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

22. The Spark, Chemistry, and Attraction in Early Dating with Lauren Josephine

What do you think about the spark?
Does it need to be there right away? Can it grow over time? How long should you give it to develop? Does the spark even matter?
What about chemistry? How does that factor into things? 
What role does attraction play in dating? Both physical and emotional attraction?
In this episode, myself and our guest Lauren Josephine (@lookingforsomethingserious) will break it allll down for you and answer your questions about the ⚡️SPARK⚡️ and more!
I hope you enjoy this episode and please leave a review or rating if you found it helpful! 
About our guest:  Lauren is long-time dater turned dating and relationships author. After going on over 200 dates throughout her 20s and 30s, she felt called to write about and normalize all of the struggles modern daters deal with today, especially when using dating apps.
She recently published her first book called "Looking for Something Serious", in which she uses her 10-year dating journey to discuss the many pitfalls of dating today, like ghosting, situationships, repeated rejection, and losing hope in dating altogether.
Lauren is passionate about sharing practical, optimistic dating advice to help single people build the confidence, patience, and hope they need to not give up on finding love. She is 34 and lives in the Bay Area, California with her fiancé (who she met on Reddit in 2022!) and her dog Winnie.
You can connect with Lauren on Instagram and via her website.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!
 

21. Dating N.A.T.O. (Not Attached to Outcome) with Erika Ettin

On this episode of Flirtations, we're dating N.A.T.O.!
Standing for "Not Attached To Outcome," I'm excited to have a conversation all about this dating strategy with dating coach extraoridinaire Erika Ettin (@alittlenudge)!
What does dating N.A.T.O. mean, exactly?
Well, if you've ever attached quickly to someone you just started dating, or put pressure on yourself, or seen dating in black and white terms as a success of failure, or felt like you just have all these expectations that have made dating tricky ... I think you'll like this strategy!
Erika explains what dating N.A.T.O. is all about and how it will help you date with more ease, clarity, and confidence!
We'll also talk about detachment and expectations, communication in dating (including asking for clarity when there's uncertainty), and heartbreak. Erika has a several beautiful messages for the tough times when your heart may be feeling heavy and wonder if it's "all worth it."
I hope you love this episode as much as I loved recording it!
About our guest:  Erika Ettin is the Founder of A Little Nudge, a consulting company that helps people navigate the world of online dating, from first click to first date. She is also the author of the book Love at First Site and the co-host of the dating podcast So, We Met Online…
Erika studied economics at Cornell University and received her MBA from Georgetown. She started A Little Nudge in 2011 (after a seven-year career as an economist). She is responsible for many relationships, marriages, and the confidence some people simply need to “get out there.”
A Little Nudge has been featured in media around the country, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, NPR, CBS, and Ask Men, and she currently writes a weekly syndicated dating column. You can connect with Erika on Instagram, @alittlenude.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
Happy flirting!

20. Flirting and Dating at Work with Kelsea Warren

We're flirting at work today, y'all!
I get A LOT of questions about workplace crushes and dating at work. Today, they all get answered!
To have this conversation with us is Kelsea Warren, a coach, speaker and expert on career burnout and workplace values, and together, we're gonna take on topics like:
How do I flirt at work? What if I have a crush on my boss? What if I'm dating my coworker? What are some secret ways to flirt at work? What if I flirt with my work crush and they don't flirt back? Is flirting and dating at work bad? 
We'll also get into how you can talk about what you do/your career on a date and share date ideas for when you don't have a lot of money or may be in between jobs.
Finally, you'll see woven into the conversation Kelsea's work on workplace values and burnout. Cuz let's be real. How you make money has a BIG impact on your life, and thus your relationships, whether you're dating or not. I felt this was an important part of the conversation and I'm so glad Kelsea was on the show!
But that's not all for this episode. We'll also be talking with Martha, an HR lawyer and I'll ask questions like, "Is HR reading my emails?" "Can I flirt in the Teams chat? Or Zoom chat?" "How much skin can I show if I want to flirt with my crush and get away with it?" "Could I get in trouble for flirting? Or dating my coworker?"
Thanks for checking out this episode, Flirty! Please don't forget to leave a rating and hit subscribe so you don't miss an episode!
Come flirt with me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
To work together 1:1 and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guest:  Hi there! I'm Kelsea. A coach, consultant, and speaker who specializes in burnout prevention. I have a master's degree in social work and am approaching candidacy for a Ph.D. in Industrial and Organizational Psychology. I am an expert in employee burnout and workplace values and have used that as the lens to help thousands of high achievers create and sustain aligned careers.
Before that, I spent 8+ years in mental health and working as a clinical therapist. I LOVE digital marketing, specifically short-form video, and have an organic audience of 150k+ across social platforms, which has landed me collaborations and keynotes with brands like Urban Decay, The National Post, Girlboss, ATD, Teacher Vision, WSCPA, and University Of Arizona.
I'm also an Air Force spouse of 11 years, and mom to a firey five-year-old daughter. 
A gift from Kelsea! Make sure to grab your FREE resources mentioned in the episode!  Workplace Values Assessment & Wellbeing Audit

19. Autism and Dating with Ashra Piterman

It's the "Autism and Dating" episode of Flirtations!
On the show, we'll meet Ashra Piterman, an autism advocate, podcast host, and creative who was diagnosed with autism at age 24. We'll learn more about Ashra and her journey toward diagnosis, and talk about dating, of course!
Ashra shares her experiences dating and making connections before and after being diagnosed, including how she started dating her boyfriend, and ways her autism has influenced her dating life.
We'll talk about flirting and dating strategies, ways to manage anxiety on a date, first date ideas, and communication tips - all geared for the autistic person!
Overall, this episode offers a framework for developing secure, healthy attachment in relationships, with a special focus on the neurodiverse flirties who are autistic, or are wondering if they may be.
Finally, Ashra shares resources to explore if you are considering a diagnosis or would like to seek further information.
Whether you are autistic or not, I hope you enjoy this episode of Flirtations that promises to offer something for everyone!
After the episode, please consider leaving a star rating or review, and then let's connect on socials if we haven't already!
You can flirt with me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
To work together 1:1 and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guest (in her words):  My name is Ashra and I am a late-diagnosed autistic woman with a passion for spreading the message "autistic adults exist too". I have a master's degree in the field of Psychology, I am a content creator, a podcaster, and I run support groups for adults in the autistic community. You can find me on Instagram @ashralouisa, on Spotify and Apple Podcasts @autisticafterhours, and you can checkout my website www.autisticthrifter.org to learn more about my support groups.

18: Sex and Early Dating with Claire Perelman and the Honeydew Me Podcast

Oooooo it's the sex and dating episode y'all! And to have this conversation with us is not one, but three special guests!
On the show today, we'll be talking with sex therapist and educator Claire Perelman and the co-hosts of the Honeydew Me podcast, Emma Norman and Cass Anderson, as we answer allllll of your sex and dating questions!
Questions like:  What is sex, anyway? Can I have sex on a first date? Should I? How do I talk about boundaries and consent? How do I ask for what I want? What if the sex is awkward? I have expectations, what do I do with those? What if I get rejected? How can I explore kinks with someone new? What if I get anxious or nervous? What if the sex isn't good? How can I have more FUN?!
Basically, If you're having the sex or will be having the sex, this episode is for you!
For more sex and dating Q&A, please check out the Instagram LIVE I did with Claire earlier this year:  IG LIVE, Sex and Dating.
Thank you for listening, flirty! If you enjoyed this episode, please rate the show and let me know what you thought!
You can connect with me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
To work together 1:1 and for all Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guests: 
Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish Sex Therapist and Educator living and working in the Bay Area. Her work with clients, workshops, podcasts, and social media focuses on making sex education more accessible and normalizing sexual pleasure and play in people’s lives. Like many therapists, she channeled her greatest source of pleasure and heartbreak into her area of focus, leading her to specialize in therapy for sex and intimacy with couples, individuals, and polycules. You can find her at @sexclarified (on all platforms) and www.sexclarified.com
Emma and Cass are the hosts of Honeydew Me, a podcast dedicated to helping all humans have great sex, feel good in their bodies, and find the confidence to embrace their most authentic selves. Emma & Cass strive to have honest, shameless, and relatable conversations that help you in and outside the bedroom. We can't wait to hang! Follow the Honeydew Podcast on Instagram and stream episodes wherever you listen to podcasts!