Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

60. Your Winter Solstice + New Year's Dating Horoscope with Fernie!

Coming up on this episode of Flirtatations, we’re going to have a magical time as Fernie, our favorite mystic and fortune teller, is back on the show for our winter solstice and new year's dating horoscope!
The longest night of the year has passed us and we'll explore the cosmic energies that will influence our dating lives heading into the new year.
What celestial movements will affect our love lives? How can we use the energies of the solstice to help us prepare for new beginnings and transformations?
Whether it's attracting a new partner, deepening an existing relationship, or working on self-love, Fernie has got plenty of insight on what we should be focusing on for the coming season and how you can tap into the energy of the universe for your own personal growth and romantic aspirations.
Let’s do this, flirties!
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About our guest:  Fernie Salinas (he/they) is a queer Latinx fortune telling witch from the Rio Grande Valley in Texas.  They are the owner and founder of Golden Mirror Fortunes, and they hope to be Your Favorite Fortune Teller! They grew up always knowing that magic was around us, as their great-grandfather and his son, their grand-uncle, were both curanderos (folk healers) in Rio Grande City, and it’s been such a delight to have Golden Mirror Fortunes carry on the legacy of healing and mysticism they instilled in him.
He’s also an educator — he went to Rice University, studied English and Art History, got their teacher’s certification, joined TFA, and have been a teacher and principal at various schools in the RGV.  He is currently an education consultant as well as running Golden Mirror Fortunes, their small fortune telling business.  He uses tarot and magic to help people heal and find their paths, all in service of improving their fortunes.  His deepest desire is to provide you with the light that you need to make your life a little more magical and glittery. Follow them on Instagram and let them be your favorite fortune teller!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

59. Under the Mistletoe: Your Holiday Flirting and Dating Guide, Pt. 2 with Madison Brandt

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, it’s part two answering more of your holiday dating questions with dating coach and podcast host Madison Brandt!
Today, we’re talking about traveling together for the first time as a new couple or maybe you're figuring things out, and whether or not you invite your maybe new date to the company holiday party or new years!.
Then we'll get into some flirting tips (of course!) if you’re single and ready to mingle, and mindset tips feel festive and embrace the single life.
Finally, we'll talk about how you can acknowledge loneliness if you’re maybe not feeling all that cheery this season.
All of this and more coming up in Part 2 of the holiday episode! Let’s go flirties!
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About our guest:  Madison Brandt is a Dating & Relationship Coach and the host of the Deep Talk Podcast. She's passionate about helping people both find — and keep — a healthy relationship. Madison currently resides in Minneapolis, MN and takes clients virtually. To work with Madison, please visit her website. To follow along with her content, find her at Instagram @wellnessmads or tune into her podcast on Apple or Spotify.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

58. Under the Mistletoe: Your Holiday Flirting and Dating Guide, Pt. 1 with Madison Brandt

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we've got a festive episode for you with Madison Brandt, host of the Deeptalk Podcast back on the show! 
With the holiday season in full swing, we're answering your most pressing dating questions you might face during this time of year.
In part one of the first ever two part episode, we’ll be talking about balancing festive fun with stress, meeting the family for the first time, plus gift giving and how soon is too soon to put a bow on a box?
We’ve got communication strategies, what to do if you’re spending the holidays apart with someone you just started dating, and what to do when asked about your relationship status and parties and events, but maybe it’s, ya know, complicated! 
So grab your hot cocoa, cozy up by the fire, and get ready for an episode filled with advice, tips, and a whole lot of holiday cheer.
Let's go flirties!
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About our guest:  Madison Brandt is a Dating & Relationship Coach and the host of the Deep Talk Podcast. She's passionate about helping people both find — and keep — a healthy relationship. Madison currently resides in Minneapolis, MN and takes clients virtually. To work with Madison, please visit her website. To follow along with her content, find her at Instagram @wellnessmads or tune into her podcast on Apple or Spotify.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

Flirtini #11: How the Leopard Got it's Spots

I've got an original short story for you in this Flirtini!
No heads up about what to expect.
If you've got ten minutes, I hope you'll give this episode a listen and if you're streaming on Spotify or YouTube where comments are enabled, please let me know what you think!
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

57. Overcoming Dating Burnout: Breaks, Boundaries, and Staying Hopeful with Michelle Mouhtis

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we welcome Michelle Mouhtis to the show for a conversation about dating burnout and staying hopeful navigating the battlefield that is modern dating!
With the endless swiping, messaging, and meeting up, it's easy to feel overwhelmed and exhausted by the dating scene.
Yet today, we hope to make this whole dating process a little bit easier! Inside, we’ll explore what dating burnout is, the ways it can impact our dating lives, and how we can ultimately love ourselves thought it - and out of it. 
We’ll also talk about why you should be taking dating breaks, how to keep your cup full so you can avoid burnout, and how to keep the hope alive even when the dating scene feels exhausting or when you wonder if it's ever meant to be. We got you!
So, Whether you’re feeling burnt out from swiping, having what feels like an endless string or first dates, feeling rejection, or just wanna listen to a podcast, this episode is for you!
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About our guest:  Michelle Mouhtis is a coach for high achieving millennial women and men to find lasting love and deepen the relationship they have with their partners through 1:1 coaching, signature group programs, and masterclasses.
Her work and expertise has been featured in Women’s Health, The Knot, Brides, Wedding Wire, and The Washington Post – to name a few!  Her clients are all high achieving doers by nature like you – physicians, authors, counselors, therapists, entrepreneurs, photographers, and film editors – incredible badass women and men who are creating big waves in this world and looking for their extraordinary equal to build a life they love together.
You can connect with Michelle on Instagram and via her website for more information and to work together!
Please click here for the FREE masterclass mentioned in the episode, "SPARK:  6 Steps to End Dating Burnout."
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

56. Unlocking Your True Self: Exploring the Enneagram in Dating with Marilyn Wolf

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re diving deep into the Enneagram with our special guest, retired psychotherapist and Enneagram expert Marilyn Wolf! Together, we'll discover how and why the Enneagram is a powerful tool for self-awareness, ultimately helping you develop deeper connections and more fulfilling relationships!
We’ll start by exploring what the Enneagram is and why it stands out from other frameworks and systems like astrology or the Myers-Briggs. Marilyn will then walk us through the nine distinct Enneagram types, highlighting the unique characteristics, motivations, and frustrations of each one, sharing why it's our difference that present opportunities for growth and connection.
We’ll also touch on the concept of wings in the Enneagram, providing insight into how these adjacent types influence our core personality.
Whether you're new to the Enneagram or looking to deepen your understanding, this episode will equip you with the knowledge to navigate your relationships with greater awareness and intention.
I hope you'll join us for an engaging discussion that promises to enhance your self-discovery journey and interpersonal dynamics. Let's do this, flirties!
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To learn more about the book "The Essential Enneagram," click here!
For a free Enneagram assessment, click here!
Go deeper and explore the Enneagram more on the Enneagram Institute website.
Bio: In 2020, Marilyn had a dream in which a man on the beach told her it was time to turn to the Enneagram to learn about herself. She dove in and has been involved ever since. Even though she has been teaching for many years, she still considers herself a student because, as she says, "The Enneagram is a bottomless well." 
Over the years, Marilyn has facilitated introductory and advanced workshops, weekend retreats, staff development programs, and has led many small group studies including one that has been meeting continuously since 2016. Her emphasis is always on using the Enneagram as a map for deeper self-awareness and more awakened living including greater compassion for self and others.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

Flirtini #10: Flirting at the Gym! with Jonathan Tylicki

There are some questions I get every Flirt Friday.
And one of those questions is, “How do I flirt at the gym?”
Welp, that’s what this Flirtini is all about as we break a sweat and break the ice!
Inside the episode, we welcome fitness instructor and personal trainer Jonathan Tylicki to the show to help answer all of your flirting at the gym related questions! Questions like …
Why is the gym/fitness related places so good for flirting?
How can I make an approach to flirt? Who should make the first move?
How can I signal that I want to be approached?
What if someone has headphones in, how can I get their attention?
Can I flirt with my instructor or personal trainer?
Is asking someone to spot you a good flirting tip?
What are some ice breakers and conversation starters?
What is flirting, anyway?
What if the flirt doesn't go the way I wanted it to?
What are some mindset strategies I can use to flirt with more confidence?
Find the answers to all of these questions and more in this episode!
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About our guest:  Jonathan is originally from Cleveland, Ohio, where he studied Sociology at John Carroll University. His passion for performing brought him to NYC, launching his professional career in dance and musical theatre. Always aware of the key importance of fitness and nutrition, he wanted to spread his passion and knowledge which brought him to attain a Personal Trainer Certification and start teaching Group Fitness. Now living in SoCal, with over a decade of fitness experience, Jonathan has taken his expertise to the global level, working with the largest fitness franchisor as the Director of Education for Learning and Development.
You can connect with Jonathan on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

55. The Love Episode! with Shaun Galanos

It’s the LOVE episode of Flirtations y’all, with Shaun Galanos!
The creator behind @thelovedrive and co-host of the “We Can Do Better” podcast is on the show to take us on a journey as we talk about love!
Along the way, we’ll answer questions like, “what is love?” “How can we create more of it in our lives?” Whether you're dating, in a relationship, not really looking, or maybe just confused about it all, love is a universal energy that is part of all our relationships, including the one with ourselves!
We’ll also share some common obstacles that hold us back from fully embracing love, and what we can do to be more open to the experience in dating and in our relationships. We’ve also got a discussion on one of the biggest questions in dating, when to say "I love you," offering tips on when and how to express this feeling!
Finally, Shaun spills some of his best flirting tips, strategies to strike up a conversation, and ways to make the first move! And who should make the first move, anyway? Shaun has an answer!
You don’t wanna miss this episode as we explore love and its many dimensions! Let’s go!
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About our guest:  Shaun Galanos is a speaker & coach who helps people have better, more loving relationships through open, honest, and playful communication. 
While his formal background is in interpersonal communication and personal and professional coaching, most of his teachings come from his experiences trying to build healthy relationships with those around him and years of personal therapy. 
Hosting experts on his podcast, creating endless Q&A reels on Instagram, and coaching people through his courses and workshops have also informed how he empowers folks to communicate openly, honestly, and playfully about their sex and love life.
You can connect with Shaun learn more about his work on his Substack and Instagram!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

54. Asexuality, Aromanticism, and Demisexuality in Dating with Cody Daigle-Orians

Coming up on this episode, we're venturing into the world of asexuality, aromanticism, and demisexuality with guest, creator, educator and author, Cody Daigle-Orians!
Please join us as we explore what each of these identities mean, how to figure out where you fit on the spectrum, and practical dating and flirting strategies!
We also discuss the important topic of when and how to share this information with potential partners and talk about whether these identities can be fluid over time.
We also speak to the stigma and the feeling of not fitting in that many people with these identities experience!  Finally, we provide valuable insights on how to communicate your needs and boundaries when dating, ensuring you can form meaningful connections while staying true to yourself.
We venture in and out of grounding these identities in a "coming out" process, but you do not need to identify as queer to be ace, aro, or demi! Each of these identities exist outside of the queer specturm of identities.
I hope you enjoy this conversation and learn a lot, just as I did!
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About our guest:  Cody Daigle-Orians (they/them) is a writer and asexuality educator living in Columbus, Ohio. They are the creator of Ace Dad Advice, a social media-based asexuality education project designed to support people exploring asexuality or questioning their sexual orientation. They are the author of the young adult books "I AM ACE: ADVICE ON LIVING YOUR BEST ASEXUAL LIFE" and "THE ACE AND ARO RELATIONSHIP GUIDE", and they are a contributor to the 2024 Lambda Literary Award finalist anthology BEING ACE. They were nominated for a 2023 British LGBTQ Award for Online Influencer. They are queer, ace, and agender.
You can connect with Cody online at www.acedadadvice.com, as well as Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube @acedadadvice. Explore Cody's writing on substack at acedadadvice.substack.com!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

Flirtini #9: Anxiety vs. Intuition in Dating

Coming up in this Flirtini, we're untangling the difference between anxiety and intuition!
How can you distinguish the uneasy feeling of anxiety from your intuition speaking to you?
Are they one in the same?
Knowing the difference can significantly shape your dating experience, help you stay more grounded and focused, and allow for better decision making!
Episode Highlights:
Anxiety vs. Intuition: What is the difference? What are some ways to tell?
Identifying Anxiety in Dating: How does anxiety manifest? What are the different ways the nervous system and the body process anxiety?
Understanding Intuition: How can I know when my inner knowing is telling me something?
Trusting Your Gut: Explore ways to strengthen your connection to your intuition, making it easier to trust your gut feelings in dating scenarios.
Guided Meditation: To conclude, I've got a meditation designed to help you connect with your intuition, creating clarity and confidence in your dating life!
Whether you're struggling with anxiety or trying to hone your intuitive skills, this episode will help you trust yourself more in your dating adventures!
For the YouTube (Flirttube!) version of the meditation, click here! (and subscribe so you don't miss a thing! 😍)
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!