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74. Un-Valentine's Day: A Quest for Love with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach!

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, it's the Un-Valentine's Day episode!
But this isn't going to be like a regular episode.
Today, we’re going on a quest for love and playing a game of Candyland… but with a dating twist.
Picture this: you’re on a colorful adventure through the world of romance, navigating everything from first dates to heartbreak, and, much like in Candyland, finding this game of love filled with unexpected detours and those rare, magical moments when everything just clicks.
Will you find yourself stuck on the Licorice space? Sprinting toward the Candy Castle? Getting lost in the gumdrop woods? 
Hold on to your lollipops, as we flirt with romance on go on a quest for love!
Anything is possible.
Let’s do this flirties!
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

73. The Neuroscience of the Crush with Nicole Vignola

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have neuroscientist and author Nicole Vignola on the show as we talk about the neuroscience of the crush!
Have you ever wondered what’s really happening in your brain when you have a crush?
Nicole gives us all the details and breaks down the difference between a crush, limerence, and obsession.
How can you catch yourself from going too far into delulu? What differentiates a crush from infatuation from genuinely liking someone? Two questions we answer inside, but there’s more.
We also tackle the heartbreak side of things—what happens in your brain when you experience rejection? Or when your crush doesn’t like you back? We’ve got some digital tips, as well, as we explore why texting is so addicting and how to resist the urge to stalk your crush online. 
Finally, Nicole shares insights on the difference between feeling butterflies and overall crush energy from a genuine dating interest, how we can walk rather than fall into love, and how to not break your own heart in the process.
So, whether you’re crushing hard right now or just curious about the science behind those all-consuming feelings, this episode is packed with insights to help you flirt with the highs and lows of the crush. 
Let’s do this flirties!
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About our guest:  Nicole Vignola is more than a neuroscientist; she's an established keynote speaker and author. Reaching millions through her well-established platform, Nicole offers practical tools and scientifically proven methods to enhance mental well-being. 
Recognised as "Instagram's favourite brain expert" by Women’s Health Magazine, it’s her mission to demystify neuroscience, making it accessible and impactful for everyone.
Her commitment to empowering people with an understanding of how their brain works has made her a pioneering force in redefining wellness. Nicole's debut book, "Rewire," offers a transformative neuro-toolkit. With practical strategies to optimise your life, rewire your brain and break free from limiting habits and behaviours. “Rewire” is your guide toward personal growth and fulfilment. The book was pre-empted in the UK by Penguin Michael Joseph; it was also pre-empted in the US by Harper One and has sold over 20 translation deals.
Nicole can be found on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok @nicolesneuroscience. 
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

72. Chemistry, Kinks, and Communication in the Bedroom with Jonah Wheeler

Coming up in this episode of Flirtations, we’re joined by Jonah Wheeler to explore the art of developing chemistry in the bedroom and how to create deeper, more connected experiences with your partner or partners. 
We’ll answer questions about verbal play, dom/sub dynamics as a kink, butt play, and how to embrace the journey of physical intimacy by detaching from outcome-based sex—because it’s not always about the rush to O!
We also break down communication tips for exploring pleasure and ensuring your desires and boundaries are clear and respected.
Along the way, Jonah shares some of his experiences on set recording sexy videos, what makes a good scene, and even what happens when things don’t go according to plan!
So, whether you're curious about exploring new dynamics, looking for ways to deepen intimacy, or just intrigued by Jonah's advice, I hope you’ll join us for this episode!
Let’s go flirties!
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About our guest:  Jonah Wheeler is an actor and content creator who has gained recognition on social media for his insightful videos and in the adult entertainment industry for his performances in various productions.
Jonah engages with a broad audience, sharing personal insights and experiences on life, love, dating, relationships, identity, and sex. Notably, he has discussed his journey of self-discovery, including his exploration of attraction to different genders as highlighted in his TikTok video titled "My Experience Coming Out as Bi and Queer."
Jonah's online presence reflects his multifaceted personality, combining his professional endeavors with personal narratives.
Jonah can be found on all social platforms and sites @showoffjonah. 
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

71. What to Do When They Pull Back with Jonathan Van Viegen

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’ve got couples therapist Johnathan Van Viegen on the show as we take on the pull back. 
You know, the experience you’ve maybe had when you’re dating someone, and then their energy shifts and they seem to pull back? Or maybe that person has been you?! 
Why does this happen and how can we approach it without letting fear or anxiety take over?
Jonathan offers a thoughtful perspective on approaching these situations with curiosity, understanding, and self-compassion that I think you’ll be very interested to hear!
We also explore how to reframe your needs as wants and desires to create open and collaborative communication with potential partners. Johnathan introduces his red flag/green flag strategy, which helps you evaluate someone's intentions while maintaining healthy boundaries so you can date with clarity and confidence.
Finally, we discuss the importance of cultivating self-love and the belief that the love you seek is not only deserved, but absolutely attainable. 
So, whether you're dealing with mixed signals or simply looking for ways to feel more secure in your dating life, this episode is full of insights to help you date with more focus. 
Alright flirties, let’s meet Jonathan! 
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About our guest:  Jonathan Van Viegen, the Guy Who Saves Marriages (Without the Fluff), is a couples therapist and relationship coach who helps partners break out of the same exhausting fights, stop feeling like roommates, and actually enjoy being married again. His no-nonsense, solution-focused approach skips the therapy jargon and gets straight to what works—helping couples feel chosen and cherished again.
Through his IG Lives, reels, and direct coaching, Jonathan delivers real, actionable strategies that actually fix what’s broken—without the endless “processing” that keeps couples stuck. His work is all about fast progress, deep connection, and practical tools that make a lasting impact.
You can connect with Jonathan on Instagram.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

70. The Seven Things to Look For in a Partner with the Dateable Podcast

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick, the dynamic duo behind the Dateable podcast and the new book, “How to Be Dateable,” to have a conversation with us about, well, dating!
Julie and Yue will share with us today the 7 things that matter when looking for a partner and why connection and compatibility goes way beyond some chemistry and attraction.
We’ll learn about the key qualities to focus on when choosing someone for a relationship, how to avoid getting stuck in surface level connections, and what it really means to be dateable.
Along the way, we’ll touch on emotional availability, long-term compatibility, and how to create genuine, lasting connections so you can feel more confident and empowered in dating. 
So, whether you're single, dating, or just curious about what makes relationships thrive, this episode is for you! It’s for everyone, basically! Stay tuned!
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About our guests:  Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the authors of How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love and the co-hosts of the hit podcast Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. 
Connect with Julie and Xue on Instagram, Take the "Dating Archetype" Quiz, and grab your copy of How to Be Dateable!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

69. Let's Talk About Sex: Libidos, Desire, and Connection with Hannah Deindorfer

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have Hannah Deindorfer, the Libido Fairy!, on the show to explore with us physical intimacy, libidos, and sex in dating!
Up for discussion are questions around consent, desire, and the touch barrier, and we'll play in the space of intimacy here as we talk about different ways to connect with your partner or partners on that physical level. We even go into your kissing dilemmas! 
But that’s not all. Hannah will also offer guidance on how to navigate mismatched libidos, responsive vs. spontaneous desire, what to do in those moments when intimacy dips, and how to communicate your desires - without any shame.
So, whether you're struggling with desire differences, looking to strengthen emotional intimacy, or simply curious about how to approach these conversations in dating, this episode is full of actionable advice that is sure to keep the spark alive!
C’mon flirties, let’s meet Hannah!
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About our guest:  Hannah Deindorfer, also known as "The Libido Fairy," has helped hundreds of women who struggle with low libido feel more connected to their partners and look forward to intimacy again. With her expertise in somatic and emotional healing, she guides women through practical steps to rekindle desire.
You can connect with Hannah on Instagram, YouTube, and the web!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

68. Dating After Sexual Assault with Claire Perelman

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, I’m joined by certified sex Claire Perelman for an important conversation about dating after sexual assault. 
Together, we explore the complexities of reclaiming your sense of self in dating and relationships while navigating boundaries, consent, and personal healing. 
I also share my own story, opening up about the challenges of feeling safe while dating and the journey of learning to trust myself - and others - again.
We discuss how trauma impacts the nervous system and the common experience of self-abandonment—doing whatever it takes to keep someone close. We’ll offer insights on how to reconnect with your body, heal your nervous system, and approach dating in a way that feels empowering and safe.
This episode is a powerful reminder that healing is possible and that you deserve it all, flirty! Let’s do this!
Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions sexual assault and trauma so please listen with care and if you or someone you love needs support, resources are linked in the show notes below. We are here to help.
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About our guest:  Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish Sex Therapist and Educator living and working in the Bay Area. Her work with clients, workshops, podcasts, and social media focuses on making sex education more accessible and normalizing sexual pleasure and play in people’s lives. Like many therapists, she channeled her greatest source of pleasure and heartbreak into her area of focus, leading her to specialize in therapy for sex and intimacy with couples, individuals, and polycules. You can find her at @sexclarified (on all platforms) and www.sexclarified.com
Further resources for the USA below. If you have international resources, please share those with me and I will add here to the show notes! 
The National Sexual Violence Resource Center
RAINN:  National Sexual Assault Hotline
Planned Parenthood
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

67. Depression and Dating with Kaleigh Smith

Coming up in this episode of Flirtations, registered psychotherapist Kaleigh Smith is back on the show for an honest conversation about depression and dating!
We'll explore what depression really feels like, how it can impact our ability to connect with others, and the unique challenges it brings to forming and maintaining relationships. 
I also open up about my personal journey with depression, which I’ve experienced pretty much my whole life, and share this part of me with you in hopes that it will be supportive and healing. 
Kaleigh and I talk about ways to communicate your mental health needs with potential partners while still prioritizing your own well-being, share about how depression can affect emotional availability in dating and why self-compassion is so important. Plus ways to love yourself a little bit harder!
If you’ve ever felt like depression has made dating feel overwhelming or isolating, we’re here to remind you that you’re not alone and that it’s possible to find connection, even in the hardest moments. 
Trigger warning: This episode includes raw discussion of mental health, so please listen with care and if you or someone you love needs support, resources are linked in the show notes below and we are here to help.
Alright flirties, let’s meet Kaleigh and do this!
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About our guest:  Kaleigh is a Registered Psychotherapist practicing in Ontario, Canada, and the clinic owner of Yellow Serenity Counselling & Psychotherapy. She completed a Specialist Degree in Mental Health (HBSc) at the University of Toronto, a post-graduate certification in mental health interventions at Seneca College, followed by a master’s degree in Counselling Psychology at Yorkville University.
As an ADHDer, Kaleigh brings a lived experience perspective to her psychotherapy practice. She understands the nuances of navigating daily life with ADHD, from managing executive function challenges to embracing the unique ways of neurodivergent thinking.
As a proud member of CADDRA and a Certified Clinical Services Provider for ADHD treatment, she offers specialized, affirming care for neurodivergent individuals. Her goal as a therapist is to empower neurodivergent individuals and enhance their overall well-being through personalized, neurodivergent-affirming therapy. You can connect with Kaleigh on Instagram and via the web.
Resources mentioned in the episode:  
In Canada, you can call or text 988 if in in a crisis and need immediate support. You can also access information on mental health support via the web here.
In the US, you can also call or text 988 and access live chat support here.
For more support and information, please check out the Mental Health America website.
If you are listening from other countries, please leave a comment here (if you feel comfortable doing that) or send me a message on social media where help in your country can be accesed/found and I will update the show notes here!
You are never alone in your fight to survive!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

66. Attachment Theory and How to Develop Secure Attachments in Dating with Lauren Zamora

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have licensed marriage and family therapist and dating coach Lauren Zamora to talk about one of the hottest topics when it comes to dating and relationships — attachment theory. 
We’re breaking down what attachment theory is, how our attachment styles develop and the different types, and what it truly means to feel secure in love and relationships.
We’ll also explore the core wounds behind both anxious and avoidant attachment styles, how these wounds show up in dating, and why the anxious/avoidant dynamic plays out so often. Why does this duo seem to attract each other?
Plus, we’ll discuss communication, whether attachment styles follow gender roles, and perhaps most importantly—how to start healing attachment wounds and build a more secure, connected relationship with both yourself and others.
If you’re ready to deepen your self-awareness and create more secure, fulfilling relationships, this episode is for you.
Let’s go flirties, time to meet Lauren!
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About our guest:  Lauren Zamora is a licensed therapist and dating coach passionate about helping women in their 30s heal attachment wounds, overcome dating anxiety, and find healthy, fulfilling relationships. With a direct yet empathetic approach, Lauren blends inner child healing, attachment theory, and practical strategies to guide her clients in breaking free from old patterns and embracing secure, confident love.
Having personally navigated years of toxic dating cycles before meeting her husband, Lauren understands the struggles of modern dating firsthand. She now dedicates her work to empowering women to rewrite their dating stories, feel less anxious, and become attracted to partners who truly honor them.
When she’s not supporting clients through her virtual therapy practice, Therapy with Lo, Lauren creates engaging content on her Instagram account Dating with Lo , where she shares insights, tips, and real talk about dating, relationships, and self-worth. Her brand voice—warm, caring, fun, and a little bold—resonates with women (and all genders) who are ready to step into their most empowered selves.
You can connect with Lauren on Instagram!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

64. Wear Your Confidence: Flirting Through Personal Style with Mark King and Matt King

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’ve got Mark King and Matt King as we flirt with personal style!
Mark and Matt have got soooo much for you inside as we explore what having style even means and how you can feel crazy, sexy, cool, and confident in what you wear!
Don’t have a personal style? We got you and by the end of the episode, you will!
We'll also talk about the "glow up", dressing for different body types, finding your signature color, how to build a wardrobe, what’s on trend, and answer burning questions like what to wear on a first date!
We'll also go into gender expression through clothing and how you can build a personal style that not only showcases who you are but also allows you to express yourself authentically.
It’s time to flirt with your style!
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About our guests:  Mark King is fashion stylist and tattoo artist with a background in modeling and fashion design. They studied menswear design in university and worked as fashion designer and menswear buyer for many years. They started modeling at a young age with their twin Matthew Jordan and are now a freelance stylist and a full time tattoo artist. 
You can connect with Mark on Instagram!
Matt King, born in a small town in North Carolina, started modeling at 10 years old. He worked i the  fashion industry worldwide as a model and stylist, and is now a model agent.
You can connect with Matt on Instagram!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!