Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

56. Unlocking Your True Self: Exploring the Enneagram in Dating with Marilyn Wolf

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re diving deep into the Enneagram with our special guest, retired psychotherapist and Enneagram expert Marilyn Wolf! Together, we'll discover how and why the Enneagram is a powerful tool for self-awareness, ultimately helping you develop deeper connections and more fulfilling relationships!
We’ll start by exploring what the Enneagram is and why it stands out from other frameworks and systems like astrology or the Myers-Briggs. Marilyn will then walk us through the nine distinct Enneagram types, highlighting the unique characteristics, motivations, and frustrations of each one, sharing why it's our difference that present opportunities for growth and connection.
We’ll also touch on the concept of wings in the Enneagram, providing insight into how these adjacent types influence our core personality.
Whether you're new to the Enneagram or looking to deepen your understanding, this episode will equip you with the knowledge to navigate your relationships with greater awareness and intention.
I hope you'll join us for an engaging discussion that promises to enhance your self-discovery journey and interpersonal dynamics. Let's do this, flirties!
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To learn more about the book "The Essential Enneagram," click here!
For a free Enneagram assessment, click here!
Go deeper and explore the Enneagram more on the Enneagram Institute website.
Bio: In 2020, Marilyn had a dream in which a man on the beach told her it was time to turn to the Enneagram to learn about herself. She dove in and has been involved ever since. Even though she has been teaching for many years, she still considers herself a student because, as she says, "The Enneagram is a bottomless well." 
Over the years, Marilyn has facilitated introductory and advanced workshops, weekend retreats, staff development programs, and has led many small group studies including one that has been meeting continuously since 2016. Her emphasis is always on using the Enneagram as a map for deeper self-awareness and more awakened living including greater compassion for self and others.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

Flirtini #10: Flirting at the Gym! with Jonathan Tylicki

There are some questions I get every Flirt Friday.
And one of those questions is, “How do I flirt at the gym?”
Welp, that’s what this Flirtini is all about as we break a sweat and break the ice!
Inside the episode, we welcome fitness instructor and personal trainer Jonathan Tylicki to the show to help answer all of your flirting at the gym related questions! Questions like …
Why is the gym/fitness related places so good for flirting?
How can I make an approach to flirt? Who should make the first move?
How can I signal that I want to be approached?
What if someone has headphones in, how can I get their attention?
Can I flirt with my instructor or personal trainer?
Is asking someone to spot you a good flirting tip?
What are some ice breakers and conversation starters?
What is flirting, anyway?
What if the flirt doesn't go the way I wanted it to?
What are some mindset strategies I can use to flirt with more confidence?
Find the answers to all of these questions and more in this episode!
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About our guest:  Jonathan is originally from Cleveland, Ohio, where he studied Sociology at John Carroll University. His passion for performing brought him to NYC, launching his professional career in dance and musical theatre. Always aware of the key importance of fitness and nutrition, he wanted to spread his passion and knowledge which brought him to attain a Personal Trainer Certification and start teaching Group Fitness. Now living in SoCal, with over a decade of fitness experience, Jonathan has taken his expertise to the global level, working with the largest fitness franchisor as the Director of Education for Learning and Development.
You can connect with Jonathan on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

55. The Love Episode! with Shaun Galanos

It’s the LOVE episode of Flirtations y’all, with Shaun Galanos!
The creator behind @thelovedrive and co-host of the “We Can Do Better” podcast is on the show to take us on a journey as we talk about love!
Along the way, we’ll answer questions like, “what is love?” “How can we create more of it in our lives?” Whether you're dating, in a relationship, not really looking, or maybe just confused about it all, love is a universal energy that is part of all our relationships, including the one with ourselves!
We’ll also share some common obstacles that hold us back from fully embracing love, and what we can do to be more open to the experience in dating and in our relationships. We’ve also got a discussion on one of the biggest questions in dating, when to say "I love you," offering tips on when and how to express this feeling!
Finally, Shaun spills some of his best flirting tips, strategies to strike up a conversation, and ways to make the first move! And who should make the first move, anyway? Shaun has an answer!
You don’t wanna miss this episode as we explore love and its many dimensions! Let’s go!
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About our guest:  Shaun Galanos is a speaker & coach who helps people have better, more loving relationships through open, honest, and playful communication. 
While his formal background is in interpersonal communication and personal and professional coaching, most of his teachings come from his experiences trying to build healthy relationships with those around him and years of personal therapy. 
Hosting experts on his podcast, creating endless Q&A reels on Instagram, and coaching people through his courses and workshops have also informed how he empowers folks to communicate openly, honestly, and playfully about their sex and love life.
You can connect with Shaun learn more about his work on his Substack and Instagram!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

54. Asexuality, Aromanticism, and Demisexuality in Dating with Cody Daigle-Orians

Coming up on this episode, we're venturing into the world of asexuality, aromanticism, and demisexuality with guest, creator, educator and author, Cody Daigle-Orians!
Please join us as we explore what each of these identities mean, how to figure out where you fit on the spectrum, and practical dating and flirting strategies!
We also discuss the important topic of when and how to share this information with potential partners and talk about whether these identities can be fluid over time.
We also speak to the stigma and the feeling of not fitting in that many people with these identities experience!  Finally, we provide valuable insights on how to communicate your needs and boundaries when dating, ensuring you can form meaningful connections while staying true to yourself.
We venture in and out of grounding these identities in a "coming out" process, but you do not need to identify as queer to be ace, aro, or demi! Each of these identities exist outside of the queer specturm of identities.
I hope you enjoy this conversation and learn a lot, just as I did!
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About our guest:  Cody Daigle-Orians (they/them) is a writer and asexuality educator living in Columbus, Ohio. They are the creator of Ace Dad Advice, a social media-based asexuality education project designed to support people exploring asexuality or questioning their sexual orientation. They are the author of the young adult books "I AM ACE: ADVICE ON LIVING YOUR BEST ASEXUAL LIFE" and "THE ACE AND ARO RELATIONSHIP GUIDE", and they are a contributor to the 2024 Lambda Literary Award finalist anthology BEING ACE. They were nominated for a 2023 British LGBTQ Award for Online Influencer. They are queer, ace, and agender.
You can connect with Cody online at www.acedadadvice.com, as well as Instagram, Tik Tok, YouTube @acedadadvice. Explore Cody's writing on substack at acedadadvice.substack.com!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

Flirtini #9: Anxiety vs. Intuition in Dating

Coming up in this Flirtini, we're untangling the difference between anxiety and intuition!
How can you distinguish the uneasy feeling of anxiety from your intuition speaking to you?
Are they one in the same?
Knowing the difference can significantly shape your dating experience, help you stay more grounded and focused, and allow for better decision making!
Episode Highlights:
Anxiety vs. Intuition: What is the difference? What are some ways to tell?
Identifying Anxiety in Dating: How does anxiety manifest? What are the different ways the nervous system and the body process anxiety?
Understanding Intuition: How can I know when my inner knowing is telling me something?
Trusting Your Gut: Explore ways to strengthen your connection to your intuition, making it easier to trust your gut feelings in dating scenarios.
Guided Meditation: To conclude, I've got a meditation designed to help you connect with your intuition, creating clarity and confidence in your dating life!
Whether you're struggling with anxiety or trying to hone your intuitive skills, this episode will help you trust yourself more in your dating adventures!
For the YouTube (Flirttube!) version of the meditation, click here! (and subscribe so you don't miss a thing! 😍)
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

53. Energy, Vibrations, and Calling Your Power Back to You with CiiCii

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we're catching vibes y'all, with CiiCii!
Have you ever wondered how you can use the energetic laws of the universe to transform your dating life?
Even if you haven't, you should stick around!
Inside is a fascinating conversation about the world of energy, vibrations, frequency, and how you can become the ultimate attractor in your dating journey - and in life. 
CiiCii takes us on a your journey about how to call your power back to you when you feel lost, how to heal your energy, and how you can manifest the ultimate belief in yourself that anything is possible.
Then, at the end of the episode, CiiCii shares a powerful mindset shift about heartbreak, revealing why your breakdown can actually be your breakthrough.
Get ready to elevate your understanding of energy and transform your approach to dating as we vibe hight in this conversation today!
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About our guest:  CiiCii is a Life and Energy Coach, podcast host, and author of Show Up As Her (Mango Publishing, April 2024), a transformative guide for women ready to reclaim their power, align with their authentic selves, and master the art of manifestation. Known for her popular podcast, That Bitch is Positive, and her vibrant social media presence on Instagram and TikTok (@vibinwithciicii), where she connects with millions of people monthly, CiiCii empowers her community to break free from limiting beliefs and open their senses to the unseen world.
In Show Up As Her, CiiCii takes a holistic approach to creating one's desired life. She breaks down hermetic principles, manifestation, and self-healing into digestible bits of information for all to use, offering practical tools to help readers embody their true selves and elevate every aspect of life—mind, body, and spirit. Drawing on her background in psychology, spirituality, and quantum principles, she teaches a step-by-step process to creating the reality one desires from within.
Originally from Long Island, NY, CiiCii graduated Summa Cum Laude from Fordham University and later channeled her own spiritual awakening into a thriving career as a life coach and content creator. Through her content, coaching, and Show Up As Her, CiiCii inspires others to connect with their inner “B.I.T.C.H.” (Babe In Total Connection With Herself), embracing confidence, connection, and self-love along the way.
CiiCii’s mission is to help others become the main characters in their lives, harnessing the power of manifestation to consciously create lives of abundance, joy, and fulfillment while deepening their awareness of the mysteries and possibilities within the unseen.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

52. Frugal and Fabulous: Low Cost Date Ideas + Your Money Questions with Bradley on a Budget

In this episode, we're dating on a budget and answering your money questions in dating!
To have this conversation with us, we welcome Bradley on a Budget aka Baddie Brad to the show! Bradley has gone viral on Tik Tok many times sharing his story of six figure student loan debt as an early 20 year and now, 11 years later, finds himself debt free. How did he do it?
Stay tuned until the end for some of Bradley's best money saving tips!
Leading up to that, we focus on budget friendly date ideas and answer your money questions in dating, like:
Why does money seem to matter so much in dating? How important should money truly be?
Can you date if you don't have a lot of extra money? Or are on a tight budget ? (ummm, yes!)
What about approaching the money talk in dating, when and how do you do this?
Does it matter if the person you're dating makes more (or less) than you?
What if people judge you for your income and lifestyle?
What are some date ideas that don't cost a lot?
Who pays on the first date?
Does money makes someone "high value" or a "provider?"
Please join us for an insightful conversation that proves you don’t need to spend a fortune to find love and build strong connections. 
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About our guest:  Bradley is a finance influencer with over 400K followers on TikTok. At 20 years old he was in $130K of debt after graduating from culinary school. He went viral in 2022 after sharing his student loan story and since then has used his platform to bring awareness to the issue. He now shows people how living frugal, having a budget, and developing discipline helped him overcome his mountain of debt and inspires others to see that they can too. 
You can follow Bradley on Tik Tok and Instagram, and subscribe to the Frugal Freak podcast on YouTube!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

Flirtini #8: F.O.M.O. (Fear of Missing Out) in Dating!

What is F.O.M.O. (fear of missing out) in dating?
What does it look like? What are some ways FOMO shows up? How might it hold us back in our dating lives? And what can we do about it?
You'll find the answers to all of these questions inside!
At it's core, I believe FOMO is about a scarcity mindset that causes us to feel like something in our life is missing, and is rooted in comparison.
FOMO also causes us to look outside ourselves for happiness and validation, which isn't inherently bad, but can lead us to feeling unfulfilled. 
Yet, there's ways to shift out a FOMO/scarcity mindset into one of abundance where the point we're at today versus where we want to be doesn't seem so far away. 
And that we have it within ourselves to totally get out of FOMO!
To learn more about Morning Pages, click here.
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About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!

51. Love in Bloom: Dispelling the "Late Bloomer" Concept in Dating with Mia Chard

Have you every felt like you're a late bloomer when it comes to dating and relationships?
Or wondered if the love you're looking is meant for you?
In this episode of Flirtations, we're going into both of these topics - and much more - with our guest Mia Chard! Mia went viral on Tik Tok for talking about the themes of dating in her early 40's, adult loneliness, and having not been in a relationship before. 
Her videos have touched millions all over the world and Mia has got incredible insight to share with you on some of your biggest dating questions, like:
Where do I even start with dating if I don't feel I have much experience? Or any experience?
How can I be with loneliness as a single person? What if I feel like it's too late for me?
What do I say when people ask me, "Why are you still single?" What can I say when I get asked about my relationship history, but I haven't really dated before?
How can I face my fears? What can I do if dating feels overwhelming?
What are some dating strategies I can use if I'm unsure where to start?
For mindset, what are a few shifts or tricks I can use to date with confidence?
How can I grieve experiences I've maybe never had and wanted to, like a teenage romance or prom date?
Don't miss this heartfelt conversation that proves it's never too late to find love and happiness in dating, no matter your age or stage of life you're in!
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About our guest:  Mia Chard is a TikTok content creator and mental health advocate that discusses the topics of loneliness, dating, vulnerability, and mental health on her account. She started sharing her experience of never having been in a relationship two years ago and has built a community of people online that connect to that unique experience and has found it is not that unique at all!
There are many people who relate to having little or no relationship experience and her hope is to help others know their worthiness isn’t contingent on relationship status— that they can find purpose and meaning in or out of relationships. 
You can connect with Mia and follow her journeys on TikTok!
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!
 

50. How to Not Date Potential with Dr. Sheva

Have you ever dated someone's potential?
Dating who you want them to be? Who they could be? Who you think they should be?
Or maybe you find yourself romanticizing the future? 
Lawd knows I have!
Thankfully, in this episode, we welcome Dr. Sheva to the show to talk about why we date potential and how can we practice a different approach!
Inside, we talk about the different ways we date potential, why we do it, and how to be more grounded - and present - in the dating process. 
We also offer strategies for navigating the gray areas of dating, like when someone says they are going to change, but you're unsure how long to wait? Or what signs to look for to know if they're changing? Or if you should even wait in the first place?
Finally, we've got ways to manage anxiety in the dating process and how can you identify your needs and work with boundaries so you are less likely to date someone's potential.
I hope you enjoy this one as we move out of dating in the past and future, and date in the present!
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About our guest:  Dr. Sheva is a licensed clinical psychologist and podcast host of "Tell Me Some More with Dr. Sheva". She believes that the relationship we have with ourselves, particularly how we think and respond to ourselves, is the foundation for our relationships with others.
Dr. Sheva is passionate about empowering women to improve their confidence, relationship with themselves, and relational skills to have the connections and life they desire. She also regularly presents on various wellness and mental health topics for individuals and organizations to promote holistic wellness. 
Dr. Sheva has shared her relationship perspectives and expertise in numerous publications, such as Forbes, Cosmopolitan, InStyle Magazine, and news platforms. 
Learn more about Dr. Sheva on her Instagram @drsheva and at www.drshevaassar.com, as well as the Tell Me Some More podcast.
About your host:  Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and deeper connections.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.
💗 Happy flirting!