Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach

8. We're Getting into Drag, Y'all! with Naomi Dix and Onya Nerves

Are ya’ll ready to get into drag?! That’s exactly what we’ll be doing in this final BONUS episode of Flirtations for Pride Month!
On the show today we have two of North Carolina’s finest drag artists and performers, Naomi Dix and Onya Nerves. We’ll hear about their personal stories of how they got into drag and what it truly means to be a drag artist.
What unfolds are beautiful conversations about what it means (and feels like!) to live in your truth, how we can embrace our authentic selves, and why allowing yourself to be seen as who you is so important. If you’ve got some questions about how any of that is possible, this episode is for you!
Regardless of how you identify, or whether you’ve ever seen a drag performance before, I encourage you to check out this episode and hear the mic drop moments for yourself!
The conversation continues on Swell with bonus clips, extended interviews, and more! After each episode, head on over to Swell and let's keep flirting!  https://www.swellcast.com/BenjaminCamras
Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
Check out my Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guests:  
Naomi Dix:  Based out of Durham North Carolina, Naomi Dix is one of the Triangles most dynamic, versatile, boundary pushing Drag artist. Naomi Dix was born into the Drag world March of 2014, making her debut as a House of Coxx member and has since been a continuous force to be reckoned with. As Miss Hispanidad NC 2017, working closely with the Black and Latin HIV community, she has earned the title of the Latinx Barbie of the Triangle, spanning all 3 major NC counties, Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and Carrboro. Naomi Dix is the Host, Director and Producer of one of North Carolina's largest Drag Productions at the famous Cat's Cradle Music Hall "Drag Queens are Coming." She also is the host of Acme Food & Beverage Brunch show, as well as show Producer Director and host of "DRAG! A Concert Experience" at Motorco Music Hall. Focusing her attention on creating and facilitating consent-focused spaces within the local Black, Brown and Queer community, Naomi Dix continues to provide support for her community through her advocacy work and the Art of Drag. You can connect with Naomi Dix on Instagram, via email naomidixhoc@gmail.com, or on the web https://naomidix.com/. 
Onya Nerves:  not your typical transplant to the south, she's a single mom of 5 drag kids who works her jobs to make the Charlotte drag scene a more accepting and visible place. You can catch her at a brewery just about every night of the week or you can get her attention by following her at@onyaofficial or @dkoentertainment for her specific whereabouts! 
Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators! Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud! 

7. The High Value Man vs. Low Value Man with Jacob Lucas

On the show today, we'll be talking with Jacob Lucas all about the high value man/self aware man vs. low value man/ego man!
We open the episode with a discussion on the social dynamics of dating (really interesting!) and I ask if these social dynamics are particular to hetero dating or can they extend to queer dating, as well?
Then, we get into the high value/self aware man and low value/ego man. What are the traits and qualities of each archetype? How do they date? What types of dating behaviors do each exemplify? How can you spot them? Are you maybe with a high value or low value man right now?
After the main interview, "Ask the Flirt Coach" is back and we'll hear from a listener about whether they might be coming on too strong early on? What does that look like, any way? If you feel you move fast with a new connection, how can you slow things down a bit? You know I got you!
The conversation continues on Swell with bonus clips, extended interviews, and more! After each episode, head on over to Swell and let's keep flirting! In the bonus clip for this episode, I asked Jacob, where can we meet the high value man? Hear his response on Swell:  https://www.swellcast.com/BenjaminCamras
Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
Check out my Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guest:  Jacob Lucas is a professional dating coach and author from the UK. Jacob favours a more psychological, analytical approach to dating and has great success in educating many people on how to be successful in their dating lives. In addition to helping people find love, Jacob has worked with global brands, news publications and dating apps giving expert dating and relationship advice. 
You can connect with Jacob on the internet on his fantastic Instagram page, on TikTok, or via his website. You can also reach Jacob via email, contact@jacoblucas101.com.
Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators! Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud! 
 

6. I'm Coming Out! A Thrice Tale of Discovering Queer Identity

Celebration of Pride month continues on Flirtations with the "Coming Out" episode!
I've got not one, not two, but THREE coming out stories for you as we explore themes of queer identify, gender norms, compulsory heterosexuality, self acceptance, queer dating (of course!), finding community, and MORE!
If you are perhaps feeling lost in figuring out your sexuality and who/how you want to date, I highly encourage you to check out the episode!
Or maybe you know a friend or family member looking for guidance through this process of discovery and acceptance, I hope you'll share this one with them!
If you're an ally and wanna hear what it's like to come out, this is the one to listen to!
Finally, let's say you're reading this and are like, Benjamin, I'm here and queer, been out! I'm sure you'll still be able to relate to the stories shared, just like I did!
The conversation continues on Swell with bonus clips, extended interviews, and more! After each episode, head on over to Swell and let's keep flirting:  https://www.swellcast.com/BenjaminCamras
Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
Check out my Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guests:  three of Stonewall Sports finest are on the show. I was beyond happy to talk with Jordan Johnson, K (wishes to remain anonymous), and Gracie Rodgers.
Jordan is a dog mom to an adorable Beagle, Lemon, a daughter and sister, earring designer, photographer, social media strategist, and fabulous friend, just to name a few things!
K wishes to share that they "are cool, fun, sexy, and a great flirt!"
Gracie (all pronouns) is an artist, educator, and LGBTQ community leader in Greensboro, NC.  They identify as queer and genderfluid.  Gracie is involved in organizations such as Stonewall (where they met Benjamin), Out at the Movies, Triad Pride Performing Arts, and the Carolina Aging Alliance. Gracie is passionate about queer storytelling and reconnecting with older generations in the LGBTQ community.  Connect with Gracie on Instagram @FreetobeGracie.
For more information on Stonewall Sports, please check out their website: Stonewall Sports Nationals. For local resources and support, please Google or do an internet search for "lgbt life center near me" or "lgbt resource center near me" to find organizations nearest your location. To access the national lgbt hotline and find a directory of resources, please visit the LGBT National Help Center website.
Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators! Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud! 

5. Strutting into Main Character Energy and Decentering Men with Star Monroe

On the show today is none other than Star Monroe! We've got an incredible conversation about how to embrace - strut! - into main character energy (and what the truly means), as well as how to decenter men and center your fine self! 
A few topics discussed include internal vs. external validation, seeing the world through the male gaze, what happens to the ego during times of self doubt, the importance of embodying healing (and how to do it), the truth about authenticity, and more.
After the main interview, the mics stayed hot once more and the Flirt Coach ... got coached! You don't wanna miss this moment.
Then for the second segment of this episode, I've got a meditation for you on cultivating inner confidence that pairs perfectly with Star's interview. You can listen to it driving, but at least pull over to do the practice!  😂
The conversation then continues on Swell with bonus clips, extended interviews, and more! After each episode, head on over to Swell and let's keep flirting! In the bonus clip for this episode, we've got more on Star's story:   https://www.swellcast.com/BenjaminCamras
Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
Check out my Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guest: Star Monroe, a licensed psychotherapist and master life coach, is dedicated to supporting ambitious, successful women over 50 who refuse to settle. She champions women to demand more from themselves before seeking it from the world. Her mission is clear: inspire women to take exceptional care of their mind, body, soul, and dreams, and decenter men to lead a life of excellence. Become fiercely assertive and unapologetically confident with Star Monroe’s guidance, embracing the ethos of The High Standards Woman to Live A Life of Excellence.
Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators! Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud! 

4. A Cosmically Queer Love Story with Coach Coco and Farmer Pepe

On this special BONUS episode of Flirtations, I sat down with two guys I can't wait for you to meet! In honor and celebration of Pride month, we've got a queer love story today, y'all. Cosmically queer! From becoming each other's first ever boyfriends to moving to the cloud forests of Costa Rica to become farmers, let's get ready to hop on the flirt-train (choo! choo!) of looooove. 💗
The conversation continues on Swell with bonus clips, extended interviews, and more! After each episode, head on over to Swell and let's keep flirting! In the bonus clip for this episode, I ask Coach Coco and Farmer Pepe for their five best dating tips! Hear their response on Swell:  https://www.swellcast.com/BenjaminCamras
Then, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
Check out my Flirt Coach offers:  https://stan.store/benjamincamras
About our guests, Pepe and Coco's love story (in their own words):  Before meeting, Pepe and I already knew that we weren’t here just to **** around, make babies, play by the rules, meet societal expectations or have impressive careers. Our souls were reaching out to each other for something deeper…something COSMIC…
When our paths finally lead us to the same place, our auric fields were close enough, and we were both sending out the magnetic signals that we were open & ready to meet, we did! It was the most profound, mind-blowing, heart-exploding, psychedelic experience of our lives - clearly WAY more than a crush. Although our feet didn’t touch the ground for at least a year, we had an inner Knowing that this was an extremely special & important connection like none other. We felt (and even remembered at times) that our souls had manifested and found each other through different forms over many different lifetimes, and that in this incarnation we would help each other move to Costa Rica…and continue to help each other peel back layers of conditioning & trauma, realize our dreams, and reach our highest potential. 
Now that we are here, we are definitely going through a tough chapter, but we have no idea what we would be doing if we weren’t together helping each other to figure our shit out (and have fun and amazing sex along the way)! The challenges we’re facing individually and as a dynamic duo are part of life’s curriculum - the cosmic plan - and we are down for the ride. This is the soulmate path!
Please connect with Coach Coco and Farmer Pepe individually, or check out their joint account, Tropical Farm Boys.

3. Your Yasss Era and Embracing Singledom! with Julia Mazur

It's your YASSS era, flirty! On this episode of Flirtations, I sat down with Julia Mazur of the Pretty Much Done podcast to talk about embracing singledom and stepping into a mindset of YES.
Whether you're single and dating, or taking a dating break, we explore letting go of societal expectations and talk strategies for developing a stronger relationship with the one person you'll be with your whole life - yourself!
A few of the themes covered are internal vs. external validation, loneliness vs. being alone, what self love truly is (and how to practice it), the role of boundaries, and more.
And for the flirties dating, we got you! In this episode you'll also find dating strategies for meeting people in real life as we say YAS to the people, places, and things that serve us and HELL NO to what does not! Are you ready for your YASSS era?!
After the interview, stay tuned as I welcome fellow Trader Joe's crew member Susan onto the show to share a dating ... debacle? It's dating story time on Flirtations! Maybe you've had a similar experience before?
The conversation continues on Swell with bonus clips, extended interviews, and more! After each episode, head on over to Swell and let's keep flirting! In the bonus clip for this episode, I ask Julia about how do you start dating after getting out of a looooong term relationship? Hear her response on Swell:  https://www.swellcast.com/BenjaminCamras
 
Finally, join me on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
 
About our guest:  Julia Mazur has quickly become the most prominent voice on the internet for celebrating singlehood. At 30 years old, Julia went viral for showcasing a day in her life as a single woman with no kids, soon igniting a larger conversation on the societal expectations placed on women by family, religion, work culture and more. Thousands of women soon flooded Julia’s DMs with their own stories on how they live life on their own terms and timeline and praised her for unapologetically representing their story.
Previously a longtime Tinder employee, Julia has ample experience in the dating field both personally and professionally. Countless bad dates and blocked numbers led her to decide to stop settling and enjoy the in between. Julia’s content focuses on celebrating singlehood and the freedom and power that comes with it - the joys of living alone, going on solo dates, sleeping in on the weekends and choosing yourself first.
Julia is the host of the popular Pretty Much Done podcast where she welcomes experts, authors and celebrities who have experienced love and love loss and who are pretty much done settling for anything less than what they deserve. Julia currently resides in Austin, TX and is happily single.
 
Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators! Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud! 

2. Let's Flirt with the Stars! How to Use Astrology in Dating with Fernie

A know a flirty will gaze at the stars from time to time! Wonder is one thing we do! 
But what if the stars could help us ... flirt?
In this special bonus episode of Flirtations, I sat down with Fernie, my favorite fortune teller on the internet, to talk about how we can use astrology to help us flirt and date with more empowerment and confidence! In this conversation, we'll start with the basics on how to find your "Big 3" and then figure out what to do with that information! Fernie guides us through how to interpret your chart and why astrology is ultimately a tool for introspection, self awareness, and connection. Let's flirt with the stars!
To find your "Big 3" if you're not sure what they are, please find out for free here! This is Fernie's favorite resource. Do your best, it's ok if you don't know all the details!
To take the FREE flirt styles quiz mentioned in the episode, follow this link!
Finally, let's connect on Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras/
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
The conversation continues on Swell with bonus clips, extended interviews, and more! After each episode, head on over to Swell and let's keep flirting! In the bonus clips for this episode, I ask Fernie to spill more tea on some popular astrological pairings. Check out THREE bonus clips on Swell:  https://www.swellcast.com/BenjaminCamras
About our guest:  Fernie Salinas (he/they) is a queer Latinx fortune telling witch from the Rio Grande Valley in Texas.  They are the owner and founder of Golden Mirror Fortunes, and they hope to be Your Favorite Fortune Teller! They grew up always knowing that magic was around us, as their great-grandfather and his son, their grand-uncle, were both curanderos (folk healers) in Rio Grande City, and it’s been such a delight to have Golden Mirror Fortunes carry on the legacy of healing and mysticism they instilled in him. He’s also an educator — he went to Rice University, studied English and Art History, got their teacher’s certification, joined TFA, and have been a teacher and principal at various schools in the RGV.  He is currently an education consultant as well as running Golden Mirror Fortunes, their small fortune telling business.  He uses tarot and magic to help people heal and find their paths, all in service of improving their fortunes.  His deepest desire is to provide you with the light that you need to make your life a little more magical and glittery. Follow them on Instagram and let them be your favorite fortune teller!
Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators! Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud! 

1. The Slow Burn and Pacing in Early Dating with Talia Koren

Have you ever rushed a connection? Or maybe you're head over high heels right now for a new crush? And are resisting every urge to text them? What does a "slow burn" style of pacing look like in early dating anyway, say that time period leading up to the first date and the couple months thereafter? What does slow burn pacing look like if you meet someone on a dating app?
If you're asking yourself any of these questions, we've got the answers! 
I'm so excited for this first ever episode of Flirtations with Talia of @dating.intentionally. Wherever you may be, I invite you to settle in and let's talk the slow burn in dating!
Then after the interview, we've got "Ask the Flirt Coach" where we'll be talking with a listener with the question, "Should I stay or should I go??"
Join me Flirtstagram:  https://www.instagram.com/benjamincamras
And Flirttok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@benjamincamras
The conversation continues on Swell with bonus clips, extended interviews, and more! After each episode, head on over to Swell and let's keep flirting! In the bonus clip for this episode, I ask Talia about how the slow burn works in early dating when you are long distance? Hear her response on Swell:  https://www.swellcast.com/BenjaminCamras
About our guest:  Talia Koren is a dating coach and podcaster on a mission to help daters have more fun and feel more grounded in their search for love. Talia draws her no-nonsense advice from her own experience of going on just under 200 dates with 64 people in 10 months, as well as reading every dating she possibly can. On her podcast, Dating Intentionally, Talia explores topics like navigating texting, mastering dating apps, dating outside your type and so much more. Connect with her on Instagram and TikTok. 
Thank you for listening! I couldn't do this without two amazing collaborators. Thank you to Corey Claxton for mixing down and editing each episode to perfection. You can connect with Corey on Instagram and via email coreyclaxton@gmail.com. Thank you to Joey Collins for the original music you hear in each episode. You can connect with Joey on Instagram and Soundcloud!